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It's common for sports fans to say things like, "we're playing Los Angeles next week" or "we picked up so-and-so in the draft" when there's really no "we" about it. The speaker is not involved in the action in any way other than as one observing it. But using that language makes them feel included in something bigger. And sometimes the brain starts to believe you really ARE part of that bigger thing, and you start taking actions to reinforce that belief.
(And I want it noted that I'm very much including myself in this assessment. This is not some "nerds > jocks" kind of thing. As an American football fan myself, I've made a conscious effort to stop saying "we" specifically because this has started to bother me.)
So no, participating in sports isn't unhealthy. Succumbing to the delusion of participation as a spectator, that's what becomes unhealthy.
This is a freelance teacher who is responsible for finding her own clients and managing her own schedule. If you let them know that you won't be taking any more lessons, they can find another student. If you lie to them and they think you'll be back for your lesson next week, they aren't going to look for another student to fill your time slot. So when you don't show up, you've just cost them to opportunity to earn money from someone else.
If I were in the same situation, I would absolutely institute a policy of continuing to bill for the student's time slot until they formally cancel services. Given the level of conflict avoidance being practiced here, I foresee such a policy being quite profitable.
I'm not arguing that this is or is not true, but the argument you're making here is not philosophically different from "if they were bad people then bad things would happen to them; since bad things aren't happening to them they must not be bad people". The reality is that bad people escape punishment all the time, especially when their bad actions benefit the people who should be responsible for punishing them.
I've done this twice at two different breweries and at this point the groups are self-sustaining with Facebook & Discord groups managed by other group members.
In most jurisdictions, this is figured by taking the employee's wages plus reported tips for each pay period and dividing them by the employee's clocked hours for that pay period. If that result is not at least actual minimum wage, the employer normally owes the employee the difference.
I don't know if it's a lack of knowledge or actual malicious pay practices (probably some of both), but number of people I meet in the service industry who don't know that last bit and tell me they've never been paid the difference for "dead" shifts (those that generate little to no tips) is staggering.
This is not a military autocracy. Neither the military nor law enforcement should have any special privileges with regards to violating the law or the established rights of the citizens. Too many supposedly intelligent people have given up on the fight to keep "the law" within the bounds of the law, and it's escaped those bounds like kudzu.
"Its" is not merely a modification of the possessive noun like "Dave's". "Its" is a possessive pronoun like "his" or "her", a separate (but related) class of word. We don't write "he's car" or "she's car", so we also don't write "it's car".
But that said, this is one is tricky specifically because the accepted possessive pronoun so closely resembles a modified possessive noun. I agree that your logic at least makes sense and I think that makes "its/it's" the least offensive of the common grammar mistakes. I don't see it as nearly the same degree of mistake as "your/you're" "two/to/too" or "there/their/they're".
For example, if you were discussing the soundtrack of a movie about a killer clown demon, it would be entirely appropriate to say "It's soundtrack is well-produced." :-)