Have you tried just saying you're a product manager instead of technical product manager? In my experience small changes in storytelling and self-marketing can create giant shifts in how you are perceived.
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Any outputs they generate that one finds useful need to be retained outside their walled-garden.
So maybe it makes sense that our political and economic leaders have false confidence that "everything will be fine, it always has been for me".
From the perspective of someone who likes /r/theblackvoid, the pixel artists coloring over the void are just trolls and griefers.
So the parent would refer to anyone 'complaining' about other users as unnecessarily angry. Whether it's a flag person mad that some other flag or art or void or whatever is drawing over their flag, or whether it's a void person mad at the flag person, or whether its a pixel artist mad at the flag person, it's all just people projecting their own preference as if its some moral imperative.
Who are you to say that streamers shouldn't use their followers to leave a mark? Or that chaos and randomly placing pixels isn't a valid goal? You may personally find it really stupid and annoying. I personally find baseball really stupid and annoying. But I wouldn't refer to people who enjoy baseball as trolls.
Dr. Seuss' butter battle is the perfect illustration. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Butter_Battle_Book
No one has ever had the experience to be able to say.
I've been wondering if I am too 'in the moment' and don't do enough self-examination of the past. It seems some people get stuck replaying conversations or events over and over and thinking about them, whereas I do that almost not at all. I wonder if that rumination / self-examination is a core part of the memory forming process. I also wonder if aphantasia is related as I lean towards the non-visual end of the spectrum, or sort of a quiet / subdued inner monologue as I am the type that prefers to speak aloud to myself to think things through rather than silently ponder, not to say that I can't think silently. I also wonder if there's some need for idle time in the brain, and if our constant stimulation via content in the form of news, reddit, youtube, podcasts, etc. is deleterious to memory formation because my brain doesn't get any boredom or downtime. Perhaps that downtime is necessary for memory formation. I also wonder if my daily coffee habit might worsen it, or my once or twice a week moderate alcohol intake. Those are two things I should probably give up but it's really hard. I've also considered getting rid of my smartphone or going to a dumbphone to see if my brain uses the periods of boredom to do something useful and my memory improves. But that's such a hard decision to pull the trigger on as a digital addict.
Have you made any efforts to combat this by doing introspection or making daily attempts to recall or remember or store information? I haven't actually taken any steps to address this condition but it's been feeling more urgent and deserving of intervention. Have been considering a daily journaling habit to see if writing down biographical events will help cement them in my memory (and to have the artifact to go back and get info from). I also wonder if memory is a muscle and when one doesn't exercise 'remembering' their autobiographical information if that muscle weakens, and then perhaps the memory-write step also decays as well due to disuse/lack of need.
For the most debilitating part of this is having to relearn something that a coworker told me or explained a week or a month or six months ago, which I find embarrassing or insulting to them, and then the other thing is not being able to remember who I told what information to or I'll remember a personal detail or story someone told me on a date but then not be sure what individual told me the detail or story. Like 'is this the girl who told me her father died when she was young or was that my friend or another person I went on a date with last week'. It makes me feel like they will think I don't care about them when I can't remember important things they shared like being abused or something about their family. I've started taking notes on new people I meet and adding hobbies we have in common, things I like about them, etc.
edit: one other thing I thought of, it may be worth getting a sleep study done. could be a deficit of some part of the sleep cycle.
And another thing is, I wonder if this is hereditary as I remember as a child my father would forget what foods I liked and disliked and I'd have to always remind him and I felt so confused and like he had no memory, and my grandma would behave similarly. There'd be moments where I felt like they were really stupid, but now I look back and feel like maybe they had the same experience I do. Or there'd be situations that I look at now and think 'he couldn't remember whether something was true about me or true about my brother, but he remembered that one of us did / said / had that property'.
When you wash a piece of polyester or microfiber in a washing machine you are sending millions of little microscopic pieces of plastic into the water supply.
Ever drink from a plastic water bottle that sat in a hot car and it tastes really funny? Enjoy your plastic.
If you google "plastic in the air", "plastic in food", "plastic in animals", "plastic in water", it's pretty much impossible to not find evidence. It's incredibly depressing. It's in the Mariana trench and on Everest.
Put those monetary resources your brain has afforded you to work.
If you were able to get laid at bars in the past, you are good looking enough. Your profile is just likely bad / has poor photos. And I know that sucks but its the real world.
Methane emission through permafrost (both land and submarine) could end up as a cascading natural emission that forms a feedback loop.
I think that's a big part of why people are panicking.
Both Red Team and Blue Team are dissatisfied with increases in crime, with more homelessness, etc.
Red Team has a narrative that policing has softened, that district attorney's offices have stopped prosecuting street crimes or let people out too early, that we have lost order.
Blue Team has a narrative that these crimes and homelessness problems need to be addressed through social safety nets, fixing income inequality or housing scarcity, etc. Basically focus on upstream changes rather than the street-level stuff. And also has a separate concern about police brutality or corruption.
A rational actor can likely see that there are merits to all of the above concerns and ideas. A rational actor could perhaps find a pragmatic answer that attempts to solve for all of these concerns, expresses empathy for each of these intersecting problems, and builds consensus.
But we are just full tribal, anti-working-across-the-aisle, full argue against strawmen versions of the other tribe, so that can't happen anymore.
Combine our current lack of the principle of charity with our two party system and we're fucked.
Dating markets are a two-sided market (but in reality, they are sets of multiple intersecting two-sided markets as there's a wide diversity of preferences and identities related to gender, sexuality, race, political tribe etc), two-sided markets are hard to make work because if you want to improve the UX of one side of the market, it's often at the cost of the UX of the other side of the market. It's really hard to build features or improvements that improve the experience for everyone. EG: make height filter a free feature and you've improved the straight woman's experience but hurt men's experience. Increase a man's access to inbox of a higher tier attractiveness woman and you've improved his experience but you've hurt hers.
If you build a dating app that tries to enforce people making fewer matches but spending more time messaging or getting to know or going out on a date with them, even if your 'quality > quantity' model would lead to better social outcomes for society writ large, as long as there's an alternative dating app that lets someone sit there and swipe for 30 mins straight and chat with 5-10 new matches each time (or uses gamification and cheap tricks or re-enforces hookups/ghosting/etc), your artificial constraints or protections you put in place to try to de-commodify humans are just overwritten by your user opening up that competing dating app. Most dating app users use 2+ apps. It's not enough to build a good app, it has to fit into the broader context of the market of services.
Photos and text are not a good way to become attracted to someone. Real life is a better form of "rich media" than online and we are often attracted to a wider range of people in person than we'd be if we just saw a few photos of them in a profile, but it doesn't facilitate the efficiency of online, its more socially risky and embarrassing or requires more courage. Leading to people making tons of matches in online dating, but most or all of the conversations becoming stale or fizzling out, or first dates leading one or both people to discover they lack physical or romantic chemistry. The future of dating likely involves combining the best aspects of real life dating and online dating.
Monetization and engagement is often at odds with the success criteria of the user.
It's incredibly hard to start a new service or app because its value is correlated to the size of the network, meaning its not very useful in the beginning. So the hardest part is the start.
Interestingly, governments may eventually start to subsidize this industry as birth rates continue to plummit. Or to make their own nationalized attempts. It's a smart investment for them economically. Japan already is doing this.
https://futurism.com/the-byte/japan-ai-singles-dates
https://businessinsider.com/japanese-government-dating-servi...
"White House press secretary Jen Psaki called on music and podcast streaming giant Spotify to do “more” in the fight against Covid-19 misinformation on Tuesday.
At her daily press briefing, President Joe Biden’s top spokeswoman was asked about a decision by the company to add disclaimers linking to Covid-19 information hubs to any piece of content that includes discussion of the pandemic, vaccines, or Covid-19 itself. She responded that the change was a good step, but that the company could take steps (if it wanted) to actively prohibit content that contained misinformation that experts have warned is prolonging the pandemic and leading to more deaths."
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/us-politic...
In the modern world, they basically lose digital citizenship for their mistake. There's no route for reconciliation or re-entry into society when it comes to major tech platforms and bans. With prison, you theoretically pay your time and then can re-enter society. Not so with online bans.
But I mean if you live in a huge city in a shit neighborhood, maybe try a nicer neighborhood. Or if you like in a small town or city with nothing going on, maybe try a bigger city. Mix things up.
Learn to be the host of your own events, to connect the new acquaintances you do meet to each other, rather than sitting around waiting for a new person you just met to text you. When I was at my peak extroversion and friend-making skills while I was doing my own digital nomad thing, I would literally throw out random "you seem like a pretty cool person and I'm new here and trying to make new friends, here's my number if you'd like to go out for drinks with me and another recent acquaintance I've made named Jorb this weeekend" to random employees at cafes, whereever and hand them a napkin with my #. Cringe as hell, but when you get truly desperate while traveling you throw your pride to the floor.
Live in a walkable big city with lots of events and diverse types of people if you hate the nerd monoculture (see NYC not Palo Alto). Or if you are in a smaller place, lean even harder into making things happen yourself. If there's no first-person drone racing group in Toledo, OH but that's what you wanna do - figure out ways to advertise it - start your own. Tell every person you meet and everyone you interact with - cashiers or whoever - that you're starting a FPV drone racing group and if they are interested or know anyone who might be to check the meetup.com site you make or whatever. Pretend you're a quest giver in an MMO.
Join activities where there's opportunity to talk during or after (so not a yoga class, but yes to a kickball league where you're on the sidelines for stretches), or there's activity->followed by drinks. Just make sure you limit yourself to a drink or two and don't make getting drunk a necessary part of friendship. It's not sustainable, especially in your 30s.
Join activities (or create your own) where you'll see the same group each week.
Put forth effort. It's hard, but it's worthwhile.
Avoid friendships that only are fun when you are both drinking. Or friendships that are based on no common interest/activity OR humor. You either need to share an interest or share humor for it to work IMO, even if getting drunk together for a couple of years once a week will make the person tolerable.
Accept that a lot of activities that foster friendship just either cost money, and allocate the budget for it, because its absolutely important for mental health (if you are the type that is extremely frugal, but also feeling really depressed or lonely).
When you start to make friends, try to think about what you can do for them. Check in on how they are feeling, offer help when they are struggling with something, or offer to bring food when they are sick, or move boxes when they are moving. The older you get, the more difficult it is to forge really strong emotional bonds, but that means these sorts of things mean a lot more to people.
I felt the same way about the review itself and gave up about 1/2 way through.
I kid, somewhat. But I suppose its hard to write a simple review about a book that's so un-simple itself.