I'm sure I have logins for older accounts stored in 1Password, but none of them would be anything actively used.
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I'm sure I have logins for older accounts stored in 1Password, but none of them would be anything actively used.
About 5 years ago my wife finally wore me down and we got an English Bulldog. The friends that we made at the dog park have become some of our closest friends, and it's great having friends that you don't work with because you don't end up talking about work.
I'm not a very extraverted person by any means but whenever I'm out with the dog I end up talking to people I never would have. Especially when I take him to a dog friendly bar (shoutout to DBA in the East Village!)
I find this surprising because my personal experience is the exact opposite. At least in NYC, drivers use the Lyft (or Uber) app for managing riders but use a dedicated mapping application for navigating to the destination once you're picked up.
Another thing I've found useful is just leaving channels where I find little to no value. If there's something important you need to be involved in, 99% of the time you'll get added back and can catch-up to contribute. In my experience with Slack, you end up in channels for "visibility" on things that have no impact on you and you have no impact on.
I've offended a lot of suburban friends and family though, because they don't understand how we could raise a child in NYC let alone give them any kind of independence. I've been told that it's irresponsible, that I'll be endangering him, and that I'm crazy to think the city is a safe place for a child, among other things.
It worked really well for a team that served a lot of different stakeholders and also had to field requests from customers since the priority of the work was always changing even if the deadlines for the work didn't.
During my senior year I was able to take a course through BOCES on audio production. That course related some of the trigonometry I was struggling with to a subject I was deeply interested in.
I don't expect Math teachers to start teaching audio production, but it would have been nice if the teacher had seen me struggling and at least attempted to approach the subject from a different angle ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Overall the process was smooth, the React + Vite frontend app was up and running as soon as I connected GitHub and added the envars. But the dotnet backend took a little bit of trial and error to get running because it didn't like my initial Dockerfile.
Overall the process has been pretty smooth though I wish the docs were a little more robust and had more examples.
I agree though, native multi-user support would be great. Though, I'd hope it's better than what we got on tvOS.
There's also a cost to being pregnant outside of just the medical costs. Assuming you have insurance that covers the doctors, you still need new clothes, new shoes, eating more, medications, tools to help support your pregnancy like a belt to take the weight off your back, etc because of the changes to your body. Those things aren't accessible to everyone.
Adoption is amazing for those that it works for, and I'm glad it's an option, but it's not a replacement for abortion by a long shot. (And all of this is ignoring the trauma both the mother and the child deal with later in life)
Also, you mention not having motivation to work on personal tech projects, and I can relate to that. I don't have a good answer except that you don't have to do any of those projects now, and it's probably better for you to find a non-tech related hobby like cooking. You'll use a different part of your brain, while also creating something and solving the occasional problem.
Also, and I say this to most people who are struggling with work, but therapy is a great outlet to help you explore the pressures of work and strategies to deal with them. When I worked at a start-up, half the reason I was in therapy was to have a neutral outlet for venting my work frustrations that wasn't my significant other. It's not for everyone, but I highly recommend giving it a shot, especially if you have insurance since there's no real downsize except for the hour or so the session takes (especially now that a lot of therapists are doing virtual visits).
Probably 98% of the devs were blissfully unaware of that complexity that the charts abstracted, and it let them focus on the services they were writing. I wasn't one of them, and always made sure to thank the devops team for simplifying the day to day deployments whenever I had to deal with writing a custom one.
I'll typically try making a list of the small steps I need to take, though I recognize that for some people seeing that list might make the anxiety worse. But for me it's a tangible step that allows me to cross off items and visualize the progress as I go which ends up reducing my anxiety about the task at hand. I do it for everything from work related projects to general "cleaning up the house" type work.
Find a psychiatrist and see them regularly so they can monitor your mood and response to the drugs. And stick with the therapy while doing this.
The combination is key, the meds will make getting through the day easier, and the therapy will help you find coping mechanisms and be more self aware of your emotions in a productive manner. This sounds hard and dumb but will be easier with the meds.
Then as you feel better you can work with both providers to adjust your meds or test removing them if that's something you want.
But at the end of the day, you need to talk with professionals. They're trained to help and will allow you to talk about specifics in ways that could identify triggers. Take it from someone with years of therapy and psychiatrist visits under my belt. It feels like it's not working at first, but you need to keep with it and follow through.
Good luck and I hope you find the help you're looking for.
This is a good starting block-list: https://gist.github.com/wassname/78eeaaad299dc4cddd04e372f20...
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