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The information surface area and processing power of 8 billion people far exceeds the few bits representing your “handful of archetypes and social roles”.
Anyone who believes that Western civilization has been largely functional should soundly reject these ideas and agree that individuation is a fundamentally Good Thing.
Given how radical their “immigration” system already was it would have been untenable to allow citizenship for multiple wives.
I agree this is decidedly positive for the monogamous folks. There is now less risk of them connecting with and falling in love with someone who isn’t a good match.
Birth control is a radical invention and it is shocking that it hasn’t led to even more rapid cultural change than it has.
One also needs to separate generalized cultural knowledge from individual knowledge. As people mature, they should tend to individuate and discover “what works for them” vs “what works for society”.
That individual knowledge can be bootstrapped on cultural knowledge, but ultimately we may each need to reject aspects of our culture in order to discover our unique path.
It gave people a whole bunch of rules and ideals for polyamory to replace their rules and ideals around monogamy. Rather than freedom, it’s just trading one dogma for another.
The Esther Perel approach of couples consciously co-creating their uniquely ideal relationship structure seems much healthier and applicable to broader society.
A lot of our problems are due to self deception. One thing psychedelics are good for is being able to see through the lies we tell ourselves and face the facts about our behaviors.
I spent 2 solid years working on https://improve.ai and it’s gotten very little uptake. It’s taken a long time to emotionally get over putting that much blood, sweat, and money into something that almost no one values.
Going forward I will be failing much faster and not giving my life energy to products that aren’t showing traction.
We have a finite amount of life energy to put into our businesses and I’d prefer to give it to something that can generate an annuity.
This writing brought a happy tear to my eye.
Give it a few weeks and you’ll start to develop both the competence and camaraderie we all crave.