429 karma · joined January 22, 2019
I had to use my paternity leave to find a new job. if that didn’t work out I was going to quit after leave and continue looking full time. I made a lot of sacrifices and thankfully it was worth it in the end. But I realize so many folks can’t make such sacrifices.
Things ended up improving for me and overall I had an amazing time in college. What worked for me was trying to stay open when meeting people. I took some risks and asked people to hang out 1:1 and in small groups. There were a lot of these hang outs with people that never turned into anything in the first year. It wasn’t until my second year I really made some good friends and it came through trial and error.
I also don’t have any of those interests. I went to a big school and one of my realizations is that it was on me to find my own place there. I tried a bunch of clubs before I found one or two that stuck but through those activities that DID stick I made my best friends.
Keep your head up, know that the transition will take time, and keep trying new things on the social front.
This is no where near the number of participants that would be needed to make such a broad claim