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As I wrote this i switch to the phrase communication-style because I realize that when he does his code review it's literally just a quick pass and a paste, but unfortunately when I do AI code reviews I review every single review item and push back individually on each item, research the items, write tests against what the review says and basically curate the code review I give out, which takes me 3 hours and then I have a boss angrily messaging me asking why the code review isn't done.
So on the one end I've managed to reduce toxicity in the reviews, but the tradeoff is toxicity in the expectation of a rubber stamp.
+ Priorities shift dramatically. I see director level people running around like chickens without heads trying to fill in an excel sheet because one of the higher ups has sent down a directive; without them realizing that the time spent doing so is meaningless dribble that doesn't matter. It's like things that were not obvious time sinks are now very obvious and I'm less patient (of nonsense) because I have something more important to care about.
yeah at some point my job was: "I create complicated PDFs for clients that want them but will never read them."
Not more efficient at handling this but more able to handling things at a lesser quality at scale.
Actually interesting I remember saying sorry in the sense of, "Can you repeat what you said?" and it annoyed one of my friends so much that she essentially trained me to say pardon instead because it was annoying her. Didn't realize it was part of my Canadian heritage.
I've seen baggers in grocery stores, place cans and bottles of water on top of bread. When I visit the doctor I have to constantly advocate that I want to see the document they are making me sign in writing as they typically won't share the document with me at all unless I sign. And just over all lack of empathy and understanding of what services are being provided, all due to the lack of training.
This forces everyday interactions to have an additional layer of distrust and having to pay attention to things that would have normally been taken care of in the past.
But yes do be on the lookout for malicous people, document, log and look for patterns... don't write it off, document.
+ Assuming people cared about this as much as I do
+ Allow another person to control then narrative: (I could have sent it out to stake holders myself; and bare whatever consequences from my hiearchy)
+ Not written any documentation and given the endpoints to an AI to communicate to laymens (because I may or may not have communication skills)
+ Take a course in communication The list goes on and on, but the beauty is that sometimes it's truely and deeply philosophical such as, because I trusted somebody who wasn't to be trusted; because I'm in the wrong place and *know* I know I should be here.
Shifting the blame to the self is less about accepting blame and more about introspection and it is the most valuable lesson I learned from my wife when we first started dating. (It help me identify that as a person I tend to blame others first before blaming myself, and to spend 10 years practicing the muscle to reverse that order)
TLDR: You have willpower, use it by taking ownership over yourself. This is a learned skill and is not enate and requires breaking preconceptions and stepping out of yourself to find.
I might be a little base, how does parking as far from the store show 'leadership'?
What's complaining about a noise wheel going to accomplish other than being like a Karen? (noisy wheel might be non important to the day to day and literally just noise.)
I think I'm missing context as I can't get the grocery store scenario from another comment out of my head.