86 karma · joined June 29, 2021
It's okay to be like that. Just take a small step towards something you'd like to achieve. It's okay if it doesn't work out, be proud that you've taken that small step. That's how many success stories actually started, from small steps combined with a huge amount of luck - but few will admit. And you might not succeed no matter how many times you do it - you should still be proud that you tried.
And remember - you only hear of success stories in social media.
I often see this advice, but to me sounds like a speed run to burnout. I've seen tech leads leaving the industry because of this too.
I've also been burned out trying to follow what I've seen other people on Twitter, or even those in my local meetups.
I've come to accept that there's no single set of steps that will guarantee me success. I have to keep trying and seeing what sticks; I still look at what's worked for others, but I also consider my circumstances and adapt to them.
You have to enjoy the journey as well. Just look back at how you were 8 months ago; I'm sure you'll feel proud of all the things you've learned!
I've used one of the free NHS therapists and frankly it was worse than talking to a chatbot. They clearly follow a script and don't exhibit empathy. They hurry you through the stages in their scripts so that they can say they're done with you as quickly as possible. I've spoken to a few close friends and they had similar experiences.
I can't even get angry at them, because I know how under-resourced the NHS is. The reality is that mental health services are just too expensive in their current form.