juliamae

personally, i'm a fan of in slut.

actually, i am in nyc! drinks sometime would be excellent - drop me an email at my HN username @gmail.

i checked out your blog and we definitely share a lot of the same ideals about sex- very cool. as a heads up, your blog's RSS feed is broken right now.

i don't have a problem meeting guys. i have a problem meeting guys that i feel any lust for. that's a big problem among the people i know who are looking for lovers on- and offline.

however, i hear the odds are much better for single women in SF than NYC. so if this site doesn't work out for me, i know where i'm moving next..

note that nyc is number 1 for "online dating." there is a reason for that. nyc has a lot of people in it. sifting through those people is hard.

cool, i haven't heard of heyfoxy, but i love the image on the front page. i'll check it out. there is a focus on sexuality, but it is not a hookup site anymore than reddit or tumblr are hookup sites. i don't see us as competitors, i see us as friends!

excellent feedback; i'll definitely qualify that line with something more meaningful.

as for the name, i'm actually specifically not going after a geeky crowd (which is why my heart kinda fell out of my chest when i saw it was submitted to HN) and am initially going for younger, artistic, NYC singles. the name is designed to attract the kind of people i want on the site for now.

i think that if you entered the site on the homepage, as intended, and then went to the about page, it would be pretty obv how to get back.

thanks for your comments on this thread! you seem to understand the female online dating problem as i do, and it's nice to have another female backing me up on here.

thanks for the feedback; I really wasn't sure how that would come across to random strangers.

TBH, it is kind of hard for me to meet people online now. sure, i could go on OKC and find a hundred dates tonight, but most likely feel no emotional connection to those people. i'm trying to capture the vulnerable spirit of my early years on the web and create an environment where people who can actually connect with each other.

while i'm not ready to get into the details of what sets us apart, i wrote a bit here http://blog.inlu.st/post/3198840889/introducing-inlust divulging the reason for the site and spirit behind it.

that's not the home page. you are looking at the about page. click the logo.

I'm the founder of the site, and just want to point out that the submitter submitted the about page, which is not at all supposed to be the focus of the site. Please click the logo for the front page.

definitely not a cheating site. 'secret' was just supposed to mean i'm not gonna give it away.

i am collecting them on the front page, so please put your email address there :) the submitter submitted the about page.

Ah yes. I'm not particularly going after LTR-seekers right now. Of course, this might change in time, and I suspect the name might have to change in that case.

it is a dating community that will launch next month.

hi, i'm the founder of this site and am actually quite curious what you mean by this. do you think the feminine design will scare men away? or do you think the name will scare women away?

i agree. i was really excited to play with this but was super let down by the clunky and confusing interface.

for example, it seems like the whole point of the service - to tag stuff with locations - is one of the hardest things to do. the only way i've been able to add a hyperlocation to my "dashboard" (instead of profile?) is by randomly seeing a link in the search results. i'm not sure why with their new design they couldn't add that link to the hyperlocations sections of my "dashboard."

When I "did" YC (S06), another one of the startups in my group was exactly this... I believe they even had the same name...

OK just did a lil search, and it turns out they were called Talkito. So close! http://techcrunch.com/2006/11/09/the-y-combinator-companies

i am! i was pleasantly unsurprised to see dating as number one! (read as "i thought it would be, and laughed when i saw it was"). the reason most dating sites fail is that people keep building the same site again and again but with different branding. i think the problem can be solved by completely changing the experience. that's what i'm staking my savings on anyway.

thanks for building this. i would love to use twitter lists, but find their UI makes it totally impossible to create and maintain lists.

however, i am having problems getting anything useful out of this tool either. the first search i wanted to do was for people i follow in X location. i attempted to use the bio field, but whatever i search for in bio ends up with an @ in front of it, and it doesn't seem like it's searching the location field anyway.

also, it would be chill to be able to search for people i follow that have tweeted about, say, ruby in the past two weeks or something so that i can easily put them into a "rubyist" list or something.

its nice to just see everyone in one place in one list with checkboxes, which makes this nicer than twitter's list interface, but i have a feeling based on the filters (number of followers? twitter client?) that this tool wasn't designed with the average user for personal use in mind.

Sure, it's beautiful on the outside. But it's fake. It's chock full of cliches. It's lying to us.

I guess I'm the outlier, but I think this page is trying too hard. It turns me off because it seems fake, sugary sweet, attempting to be cute for the sake of being cute. The bios barely say anything of value about the people; they're idealized descriptions of what the perfect person for each job would be. I do think it's nice visually, but the length of the page annoys me.

this is exactly what i need right now. see you all there!

agreed on the new york tech scene. all the events i've been to are very networky and have little substance. i used to live in boston which had more "techy" tech events. i would love to hear about better events in new york.

Fair enough. Can't say I read his blog. However, he does come across as incredibly manic in writing, which makes it difficult for me to trust him. But I don't know the man at all. Bad blog first impressions.

Agreed. If Mike's story has any real effect, it will happen behind closed doors, where even/especially Mike won't see it.

Since everyone seems to just be agreeing with the last person whose take on this they've read, think about it this way: If they were indeed colluding, do you think any of them would come out and say "mike's right, we are colluding"? No, they would come back with totally legit sounding blog posts to discredit him.

I still think it doesn't make sense for Mike to lie about what he heard, especially when it relates to such big players. Mr McClure's defensive, arrogant, immature rant indicates that a sore spot has been touched. I don't think we should take any of the angels' words at face value.

I'm a female dev who has mostly worked in male-dominated teams. I'm currently working in a female-dominated team. The differences are extreme, with the largest being that the mostly-female team has a really difficult time taking criticism and giving criticism (saying 'no' to bad ideas). They're too optimistic and not realistic enough IMO. But what do I know, I'm just the dev! :\

I'm curious how an interviewer would even know if the woman has kids. I'm a female dev and have never been asked about kids while interviewing, and if I had kids, I certainly wouldn't talk about them on an interview.

Making the assumption that all women will have kids and are mostly likely going to put raising them over their career is incredibly sexist - that goes beyond "not being an equal-opportunity douchebag".. that's like "doesn't understand women and probably has never had a meaningful relationship with one." The woman is best off not working with such an ass imo.

oh also, thanks for starting that other thread. the more people think about what our world _could_ be and the complexity of change, the better equipped we are to do something given the opportunity. plus, maybe someone will be inspired to start something on IWRTW ;)