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They should do more huts instead.

https://officesnapshots.com/2012/07/16/pixar-headquarters-an...

Well you can put a team in one room, and a kitchen to cater for several teams - like design studios actually. IMO that's the best balance, but maybe that's a bit luxurious, cattle pen-wise.

Sigh, yes I can relate to that. Others here mentioned that it's mental gymnastics, and I would add that crucial to the strategy also is to develop a thicker skin to protect yourself. Because the truth is, it'll always stay with you, no matter how hard you try, so it's best to be content with getting embarrassed now! And hey, that's how you learn anyway.

I used to hate answering phone calls. Then one day an admin from my team left and suddenly I had to do customer services too. The first two days was just awful, it's not even worth describing here. By third day, I had mapped out a script to read out from (and my team weirded out). By third week, I'd known the script by heart, and can comfortable say hello without any sweat patches. And now I can take unknown phone calls civilly.

Practice and exposure definitely helps, with a dose of immunity to what others think :)

Hmm. My little sister watches all her Disney tv series on YouTube and she doesn't care how awful the quality is. Sometimes I'm appalled how she can watch Princess Anna (??) in a small screen, at 240px and x2 speed.

As for Disney movies, we tend watch them in cinemas, and if they're really lovable, get them on DVD too.

I get that Disney wants their own ecosystem but I think this one may be redundant. We already fork out monthly subs on Netflix and Amazon Prime (lets not forget Hulu and others are beefing up too) and at least, these services cater for both adults and children.

Biological imperfection? Genetic defect? Bit harsh, no?

You've painted love in this way, and it may be true for the majority of us. OK. But there will always be exceptions in a million other forms.

I know ugly people who are utterly charming, either sweet or swaggery and others fall for them all the time.

I also know beautiful people who are foul-mannered, and their relationships never last.

And then all the others in between these two extremes. The good-looking one who had stinky pits like the rest of us after an all-nighter. The average-looking one with a wicked sense of humour, only after 3 conversations though. The dummy-looking one who actually has a strength so niche it's effing admirable. The chatterbox, the joker, the quietly brilliant ... on and on it goes. Oh and let's not forget the time factor; personalities change, experience builds up et cetra.

See, that's how you get over this "biological defect." First impressions may be Tinder-like, but we (life?) are so much more sophisticated than that.

No idea what social individualism is but the way I see is this: Nurture yourself to be the person you think you are, and open yourself to interactions. Invest in the relationships once you get them. Be empathical, even if you 'lose'. If everyone does this, we're on track to a happier, more loving society.

My stutter is minor but definitely rears its ugly head when I'm stressed. Reading aloud also works for me, as well as singing and boisterous conversations (!) I think that rather than confidence (at least for me) the key is to keep the voice going and maintain a normal 'speed' throughout.

Regarding your strangers problem, honestly you're being too harsh to yourself. You won't get judged for asking a question to be repeated!

I also think that as you become more trained in graphics (and illusions in general?) you become more adept at stripping the component that makes up the illusion.

Also the challenge that comes with "Warning!! You cannot unsee this!!!" probably helps too.

Well in that case there is one way to find out :)

What kind of boat is it? My family rented a long one once, the kind that you see cruising along (British) canals and honestly, as cute as it is, I felt super claustrophobic.

It can also be very cold.

Im not sure if this is tongue-in-cheek (I was serious in my earlier post) but why not. For science!

I have the standard list of newspapers and magazines that I browse right after hitting the morning alarm.

Instagram for design. A few other art publications..

My bookcase is also extremely well-stocked. Not that it reflects my intellect - most of them are unread! But it makes an excellent discovery engine as I can pick up any book of any subject I happen to fancy in moment x. Which is why as amazing Google is, it can never be that kind of discovery engine, heheheh.

And I rationalise to myself that surely, given half a century of dipping in and out, I'll eventually read all of them.

Nobody mentions this reason to love bees: they make excellent inspiration. I have a big deadline coming up and just moved my desk to face the garden. Watching the bumble bees nosing around the lavender patch is keeping me more industrious than the carrot/stick!

> When I read an online article from the Atlantic or the New Yorker, after a few paragraphs I glance over at the slide bar to judge the article’s length

The Atlantic is usually interesting for me, but this was a major problem before. The way to combat it is to read it anyway. With lots of practice, you'll train yourself to be more focused and ignore that conscious awareness of 'ticking time'.

Edit: language

Still a bit clunky. I'm also a fan of using Paint for simple screenshots. You can do it without thinking, and with just the keyboard!

1) Printscreen 2) control + v on paint 3) control + s and type in image name

Kindly please expand on what the root cause is and what the 'fix' might be

Or it can be an asset :) Aren't we always hammered in the head that cofounder relationship is so super important, some people even compare it to marriage? OK that's actually an awkward analogy here..

Perhaps it's better to discuss this with the person herself. Work out the best way forward to make it work. Good luck!

Directed procrastination works for me too. I usually hate admin type of work; sorting out my room, doing the laundry, responding in social media (yes, that counts too..)

But when I hit the inertia part of the productivity cycle, this saves me. It's always better to do something than just being stuck. And while I mechanically do those tasks, my head also gets in order, I start dreaming and slowly, I'm on the roll again.

When the right time comes, I slide back into the 'real' work. I can't quite regret for 'wasting' that time, because usually the reward is a new perspective, and the ideas that come with it.

Shrugs, we're not machines.

That sent some shivers. I will never believe that everyone can hate Muslims that much.

*typo

Terrorism is so easily thrown around as a blanket term these days. As many others have pointed out, the motivation seems to be more separatist than religious.

Now now, let's not give any ideas shall we.

> but it says very little about life in general.

But you said it yourself, we can never know the absolute truth value.

I say let go of what life truly means, and enjoy the process of iteratively improving your own perspective. Humans always seek closure though - that's religion for me (!)

Your posts always resonate with me, thank you, but I particularly need to hear this one. I will not call myself exceptional, but I often find fitting in almost impossible. Finding a niche and owning it is then survival! Although I'm very aware of the high failure rate with startups, I can't help but keep believing that I can do this thing. Sometimes though I am torn by guilt, that I'm such a snowflake, but I don't know, one thing I know for sure is that if I don't give it a shot, I will regret for the rest of my life. And that is much more unbearable.

Damn that's hard. Thank you for sharing. Best of luck to you and your family - as optimist, I hope that your dad can find peace soon.

Well, I'm not sure if I'll ever have the wit and guts to hustle my way to that circle, dunno if I even want to in the first place. But there's truth in "it's who you know, not what you know" so ya, feedback-looped, thanks ;)

On the other hand you could start experiencing imposter's syndrome. In any case, it's not easy to get that golden ticket for such circles, let alone maintain your rep once there!

Reading about success might create a feedback loop to yourself so that you feel more motivated and possibly more guided to get to success. Kinda like hanging out with games enthusiasts, and you gradually become one yourself?

Love for solitude is a great gift, I think. I used to be stuck between introversion and extroversion; on one hand I did things better on my own, on the other I sought validation from others, all the time. Guilt only amplified this problem. It was pretty toxic, and took many years to sort out .. it's only recently that I can feel 'substantial' enough to enjoy my own company. (I feel that this is actually an illusion, but a much needed one to save my own sanity!)

But you're right; we're social animals and will never get away with complete solitude. It sounds that you do enjoy your own company, but need the occasional 'break' from yourself. You mentioned that you have a handful of friends? Focus on them, even though you may feel that it's tedious.

I know that "going out and meet new people" is cliche but it's so true that it's a great first step. Try meetup.com to find out events that you might be interested in. Don't just go for tech, try a new crazy thing, oh and hiking ;) Sunning your face and relaxing your eyes over vast expanses can do wonders to the soul, I find.

That's an awful spiral. Correct me if I've misunderstood, but this is caused by bad neighbours? If this is really the root, take the leap and move out! Perhaps you can try flat-sharing next.

I live in a rural town, which I love (courtesy to introversion) but sometimes it can get lonely, and yes, that self-reinforcing spiral then happens. I try to go to tech events in big cities at least once a month so I'm reminded that I 'belong' to this community, even though most of the time I don't interact very much. (And that's ok too, be comfortable with who you are! :)) Seems to be working, that and monthly meetups with old friends and nurturing an appreciation of my own company. This is just me though - try different things so that you can find which suit you best. Chin up!

This was my observation too. Actually you see this ethnic-based clustering with others too, but it's just that the Chinese stick out more cos yes, there's usually more of them in STEM subjects. They're also not afraid to openly converse in their own language, even in class projects!

Sometimes I think that locals can do more to interact with them. Their presence is also our opportunity to learn from them. There's a lot of prejudice (Chinese people cheat for example) which surprise surprise, if you mingle more, you'll realise it's as stupid as saying white people like to party all the time.

Ultimately we group together to feel safer. If you approach one with a friendly face, you're likely to be received with appreciation and intrigue. If not...well what exactly have you got to lose? Don't let bad experience shape your prejudice though.

I love that this is not just audio-narrating articles from some of my favourite magazines. I adore the Kevin Spacey-esque tone! What happens if some of these magazines start releasing their own audio version? I do remember that some Atlantic articles had this. Also, did you have to get permission from the magazines to audio-narrate their articles?