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TL;DR - It’s an interns fault for taking crap free work, in essence putting their future in someone else’s hands.
My experience: 3 years ago I was an accountant and thought about killing myself nearly every day. It used to take me 10 - 15 minutes to get out of my car every morning just to walk inside. I was able to use free work to transition from a boring career to one I enjoy in an incredibly short amount of time.
Rather than go back to school only to finish in debt and start at the bottom I was able to trade valuable work that I could do (finance/accounting) for experience in work that I wanted to do (development/data analysis). I would always suggest short projects so as not to overwhelm either party, but this turned out to be very favorable in the long run. One major caveat is that these were not company created internships. I wasn’t in the business of letting a company compile all of their shitty work only to pass it off on someone to do for free. THAT IS WHAT NEEDS TO BE CALLED BULLSHIT ON.
If a job seeker shows just a little initiative they can force free work to have a training component that is defined in advance and one from which they will benefit. Too many workers put their future in someone else’s hands by assuming the company has some training program mapped out for them. Not surprisingly, these are exactly the types of employees who continue the cycle of useless and exploitative internships that you rail against.
If you are doing work for free, YOU are on the hook. You hold most of the cards because there is nothing forcing you to continue working.
First, if your product truly is amazing then there is nothing wrong with cold calling someone to alert them of it's existence. Particularly if you are offering them free use of said product. In fact, if your product truly would enhance their lives you owe to them to let them know about it.
If someone cold called me and offered me 25 hour days I would not call it spam.
Second, do your best to warm the cold call. At least narrow the distance between you and your prospects. You would be surprised at how connect you really are. Just remember specifically who your target is and how it can help them. Tell everyone you know to look out for these types of people and see if you can't get 5 minutes of their time.
Bottom line, targeting the right type of person with the mission of improving their lives is not spam. Mindlessly sending out requests to anyone and everyone is spam.
Maybe delicious is blocked at your company, so that's not an option.
Did I need another search engine in 1996? Did I need another social network in 2007? Another mp3 player in 2002, etc.?
If you really want to do it, you should do it. It's all in the execution. I'm sure Startup Foundry is not serving everyone's needs (and they probably don't want to). Figure out who they aren't serving and cater to them.
Having the role of nurturer be challenged, I'm going to assume, is more psychologically damaging for a woman. Especially when that woman has career woes of her own.
No doubt all of these cases have individual components, but doing something nice for your spouse is rarely bad advice. =)
Financial:
Can you afford to quit? You say you are married. If you don’t have kids, you’ll need 6 months living expenses. Better yet would be to have a years’ worth. I have heard conflicting reports on how easy it is to get unemployment if you quit. For now, I would assume that you cannot get unemployment.
Next, Quit or Don’t?:
If you decide to quit - here’s what you should do:
1. Give tons of notice. Since you don’t have anywhere to go, you can keep earning money and be openly looking for a new gig. The fact that it’s out in the open should alleviate some of the stress for you.
2. Figure out why you’re so unhappy. Write down two answers. First, an answer that is well rehearsed. This is the answer you can tell your boss and co-workers so you don’t blow up and tell them they are killing you. Second, an answer that is the real reason. If you’re this miserable at a job you’re going to have to do some serious soul searching to figure out why and you’ll need a plan of attack to deal with these issues so they don’t disrupt you in the future
3. Find the person who will be most upset about your quitting and manager your relationship with them. This will be huge on down the line.
4. Ultimately, be nice. You’re leaving and the way you leave will stay with you forever in the minds of your bosses and co-workers.
If you decide to stay - here’s what you should do:
Don’t phone it in. The anxiety of being at a job that you hate and continuing to do half-assed work will crush you. Better to take risks on projects that have the chance to excite you and do great work for the company. If you’re going to leave anyway, just find a way to politely decline the work you don’t want to do and pick a project that has a chance to be a game changer.
Next, look for another job. I know this is obvious, although in my opinion, you have 3 ways to go with this:
Option 1: Get another job, any job. Call recruiters. Call everyone you know. Shotgun resumes. Apply to jobs you know you can get and get a new one. Once within the new job give yourself 6 weeks to determine if you like it. If you like it, great, you have a job you like. If you don’t, move on to Option 2 or 3 and figure out how the fuck you’re going to explain why you have been job hopping so aggressively. Just be happy that you have a job that doesn’t make you cry. If it does, go to therapy.
Option 2: Figure out what your dream job is with extreme detail. I mean everything where is it? What do you do? Who do you work for? What your boss is like? How much you will get paid? Size of company, revenue, industry, etc. EVERYTHING. Write at least 3 pages on this and find companies and positions that match your target and go after them with everything you’ve got.
Option 3: Start freelancing. Be slightly less selective about the projects you take, but find a market that you are comfortable serving and do whatever it takes to give them what they want. Maybe even finding a few projects that pay $15 or $20 an hour will give you and your wife more confidence that you can quit. And if you do well you might be able to parlay those into an even more successful full-time side gig.
And when it’s all said and done and you have your dream job, do something nice for your wife. Dealing with this type of thing really sucks for women and I think taking a trip with her and showing her that you’re happy will do wonders for both of your psyches.
COPY: I think you need to get a little more niche on your target and add one more layer of benefits to your copy.
1.) Working in a small team? -- Of what? Of programmers? Of elephant trainers? Of baristas? You'd be surprise how good people feel when you call them out specifically.
2.) Use Xau to stay connected and task-focused. So what? I don't think anyone cares about staying task-focused. They want to stay task-focused so they can make money, or build a great product but staying task-focused for the sake of staying task-focused doesn't sound very compelling. I would personally change it to: Use Xau to stay connected and task-focused so you can...[insert benefit your clients care about most]
Hope that helped!
My guess is that less than 5% of bullies are prepared to actually fight. Therefore, even if you are setting your kid up for a beating it's only likely to happen with 4% or so of bullies. I would say this lean risk is far preferable to the daily torment that comes along with consistent bullying.
Just a different take on it. Comments have been good otherwise.
You know what be pretty amazing, IMO, is listing top 10 or so URL's of Bing, Yahoo, Google right next to each other for comparison sake (removing the display window).
Best of luck.
I didn't sign up, but I have a couple of questions:
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Hope this helps and I truly do think this is a good idea.
And as someone who would similarly struggle with this type of problem, I can definitely say you should rehearse what you want to say beforehand and stick to that.
Best of luck!