Regarding your last comment, what do you mean by "greater degree of agency" and how do you measure it?
We don't live in Saudi Arabia. Women can make all the same choices men can.
Like what is stopping other women from doing what you did and how does that also not stop men?
It sounds like victim blaming because it is. In our society we tend towards believing people are not deserving of help if they are in bad situations due to their own choices.
I don't believe because I understand how hard it can be to make the right choices, and also because as far as I have seen that's true of almost everyone in a bad spot. That doesn't mean we shouldn't help them, because we should help everyone who suffers.