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Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Remember that there is nothing more important than your life and desire to succeed at a startup or in corporate America or anything else is just conditioning and not necessarily important at all.

That's something I cannot come to terms with. I really want to succeed. I know I can succeed if I just became disciplined and focused.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Thanks for taking time to comment. How did you work your struggles with discipline? ie. I have tried meditation/yoga/working out many times only to relapse and give up week or month later.

This pattern has repeated so many times in the last 5 years I have reached a point I don't want to try anything new because of the fear/knowledge that it won't stick.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Interesting resources, thanks!

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Pain is one thing and it's understandable to fight pain while running a startup. But where I'm at now--this indifference to life--is scarier than pain. It's weird. I should be able to work through it though! Thanks for the uplifting words.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

This is very insightful. Thank you!

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

You name it. Toni Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Think and grow rich.

After a while they just become noise if you don't have the self-discipline to follow them.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Thanks man, really appreciate your support. Helps to know I'm not the only one going through this stuff.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

I considered that. When I returned to school, I promised to stay away from start-ups for at least a year. My life sucked even more perhaps. Hopping onto my current startup brought some joy--though not long-lasting. But nothing has brought me long-lasting joy and that may be the crux of the problem.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

You're so generous. Thank you again! You may also be local to me(yay 919ers).

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Yeah I've read up on it and it's one of my default "jokes" to new friends("dude! you've no idea how bipolar I am")--only they don't know that I am not really joking.

Still I have a lot of stigma about officially getting tested for this stuff.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Appreciate your kind words and the links! Thank you.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Thanks for the link. I am considering visiting the school shrink.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Have the treatments worked for you? I've come super close to getting tested for ADD, each time resisting out of fear that it'll only be another temporary fix(in pills). May be I'm wrong reading stories like yours.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Could you elaborate how adderall effected you? Totally understand if you can't but just in case! Thanks a lot.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

Did you always think, "I've got some great things ahead of me", and now you ARE grown up and this IS the future and you're worried about what you have to show for it?

Yeah, did my first relatively successful startup in high school. Got into one of the top incubators(may be even YC). Have many people that would kill to be me. And yet, they don't know about the monsterous rut my life is plagued with--mostly because when I do get my "mojo", I am super productive and successful(even if just for few weeks or months).

I am very hard on myself and hate drama. Yet I find myself turning into that failure I never saw myself becoming and can never accept. Really, I cannot go a life as a failure. I still have plenty of belief that I can change--but it's taken a lot of hit in the last five years of trying and falling back to the same place.

Since you're still in school, have a chat with a psychological counselor on campus.

I'll do this. Last time I went to the school shrink, I was prescribed a pill but I never used the prescription. I got my idea for a startup and most of the issues went away(I got into the incubator; startup failed but still did relatively ok)...but looking back, it seems like it was only a temporary fix.

Damniton Ask HN: Lack of self-discipline driving me hopeless. Tips?

I have considered addrell many many times only to hear from close friends that it will turn me into a bot. That's kept me away from it but perhaps I should reconsider...again.