141 karma · joined January 27, 2022
I'm a massive skeptic and I'd like to understand their perspective. Totally agree on all the downsides.
I think some game mechanics could be adjusted though - most games I've played ended up with no-one guessing the word, and the winner being the person who made the fewest guesses.
- "hello" - "medium cheese pizza for delivery" - "1 main st?" (they have caller id) - "yes" - "should be there in 20 mins" (it was)
- activism: go canvas for a politician you like
- charity work: lots of people down at the soup kitchen, the local thrift shop, etc
Some tips:
- move to a city - things are much much easier in a city as people are more transient, groups aren't as established, and new people arrive all the time
- it sounds like you have some friends - ask them if they have any friends in your area you should meet platonically
- the easiest way to make friends is an activity: you mentioned a hobby, but it can be anything - a running group, the gym, board games, etc. The more non-nerdy, the more likely you are to find non-nerdy people
- if you're like me, you struggle to make friends because it's not "easy" like it was in college. Friends in your 30s take work: reaching out, texting, scheduling, planning, etc.
- it sounds like you're not in therapy. So let me be the first to tell you that you're depressed (that "apathy" you're feeling is depression). Which is fine, it happens us all. But go to therapy because that's how you solve that. Just try it for a month, no pressure.