throwawayigd

> Complete guess but I’m thinking your child goes to berkeley

Very curious as to why would you think that?

the word "child" was used since I wanted to use a gender neutral language and "offspring" is not a word that came to mind. "kid" would have been equally bad.

Thank you.. I do 100% agree that there's nothing wrong with 3.0, I honestly do, and FWIW have never bothered them about the grades or said that they are not good. I was around average back in my day and have told them that.

My worry is primarily about the insane amount of gaming that we're able to observe during summer and no idea if that was the case during the semester or if it will resolve during the fall when classes hit. It is definitely likely that there's some other underlying issue, but having a 19 year old share that with you is a hard problem, and hence I was looking for advise/pointers or general thoughts on whether I should just leave them alone and hope it resolves.

Unfortunately, to leave them on their own devise is not easy for a parent, but perhaps we should.

> A parent's support should be unconditional.

I agree.

It's not "meeting expectations", I look at it as a concern that one can become self-sufficient and do well in life, regardless of the path.

Not sure where the OP mentioned that, but yes, there should be No conditions on the support and love for one's child. It's part of an unwritten contract one sign's into when one decides to have children.

Interesting point, will think more on it. Thank you.

That's only an option at home, not away from home.

Thank you, and that's the concern.

Every waking moment, literally, is spent in gaming. Slept at 8am (not a typo), woke up at 2pm and went directly to game. How is that not an addiction?

> parents were overprotective and constantly managing their business while they were growing up.

Not sure if we were overprotective, but sometimes self-evaluation is not accurate. I have heard them express continually that they want to manage their life and push back on help. So, perhaps we were.

Thanks.. that's a great suggestion!!

Edit: Missed this part in the suggestion, " If they fail, they get X chances, before funding is pulled."

This is something, at the moment, I don't agree with. But who knows, depending on how things evolve..

That sounds like a little judgemental. But,

> What do you mean by “not great” grades? Failing, or not 4.0?

3.0

> especially since this doesn’t even seem like a major crises..

Concern is that is this a symptom of another issue or can it develop into something else. I'm just looking for help/advise/suggestions/...

> you might be a helicopter parent though

Am I concerned, yes. Are we helicopter parents, don't think so.

> Which game is it? Roblox is generally geared towards children

some Tower defense game.

> But 19 is pretty old to have a video game issue, so it might be a symptom of other problems.

part of my concern, or perhaps there was always a gaming issue we just didn't think it was serious enough.

> My personal opinion is: hands off, supportive, but make your thoughts known

So far, this is our approach.