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You don't see it in iMac marketing photos, either, where the screen is illuminated.

I am underweight by about 10 - 20lbs and I have a lot of trouble reconciling some of the advice around healthy eating with my attempts to gain weight. It seems all but impossible for me to gain weight without heavy reliance on carbs. I think it's creating a bit of a dissonance because I feel damned if I do, damned if I don't. Either stay underweight (unhealthy) or rely on carbs to gain weight (also unhealthy?)

I have actually been drinking a lot of Soylent lately which seems very carb heavy, but people also report success with it in terms of overall health and ability to lose weight when used to control the total number of calories consumed.

> She was right, and as a senior engineer she was in a mentor role.

Apparently not?

> You can be transphobic by omission.

I don't agree. Any definition from a reputable source on the term "transphobic" implies or directly states that transphobia is, specifically, a fear or dislike towards trans people. Not researching what transgender means or what a survey should include for genders in the year 2017 may be stupid or ignorant but I just don't see how it meets the bar for being "transphobic", especially when the person who is making the error of omission has no problem with trans people!

As an LGBT person I really think that people need to stop inferring malice where there is none. Not only does it not accomplish anything, it simply aggravates people who would otherwise be friends and allies and creates further divisions. If I pointed out every single time a friend or family member accidentally misgendered someone or said something that I thought was not 100% PC, I would be spending a lot of time alone.

> or because they shut down the conversation at some point.

That's the vibe I got from her post (that the conversation just stopped at a certain point), but that's really my point; in adult, human interactions, if you behave in ways that people find unacceptable, people can and will at one point simply say, "I've had enough" and shut down further dialogue because they do not find communicating with you to be constructive or productive. They are within their rights as human beings to do so.

Some people seem to have a "I have a certain approach and you must accept it and deal with me" attitude and that's just not how the world works. You can try to push a bad, combative attitude on other people, but there's just nothing that says that they have to accept it.

There's a couple of issues that stand out to me: Github is engaging in risky behaviour by reaching out to individuals (specifically activists) for hire explicitly on the basis of "diversity" and trying to incorporate those individuals in a highly merit-based environment.

Secondly, Coraline seems to think that human relationships are a one way street: that she is entitled to be direct and even confrontational or insensitive, especially if she believes she is "right" or in a "mentor" role, and yet her peers are expected to walk on eggshells around her, lest they be accused of attacking her.

One part that stood out as particularly odd was her insistence to stay at work while she was suffering with a mental health issue that was clearly affecting her job performance, in spite of her manager's request that she take mental health leave. It sounds like she just flat out ignored her manager under the assumption that her manager just needed to accept whatever her therapist advised her to do, which is kind of ridiculous on the face of it.

I do not find your language or "phrasing" to be particularly warm, but I don't think it precludes us having a productive discussion on the matter. Your statement of me "wanting flamewars" is inappropriate if not just disappointing?

Re: shutdown of anything ever related to politics: I do not recall any political posts, specifically posts related to POTUS, in the last 12 months not being steadfastly flagged and summarily disappearing from the front page. This includes threads where the discussion (up to the point it is no longer on the front page) is entirely reasonable and non-combative, aside from the off-topic comments contained within it about how the "political posts do not belong on HN". On the other hand, people can get into a flamewar about the Apple campus and those posts stay.

There is clearly a dogma that exists about "political posts" those ten years of practice and it's clear we disagree. But that's OK. I'll have to, and can, live with not knowing the political opinions and insights on those matters from HN members.

Seems an understatement to simply describe the current political climate as an increase in "intensity". I think a mentally ill President on the verge of impeachment and a country on the verge of constitutional crisis is qualitatively different than anything that has been happening since the beginning of HN.

I don't think political discussion needs to be a frequent occurrence, but this outright immediate shutdown of anything ever related to politics when other links that are a lot less important (or not "deeply interesting", as the welcome page notes) dominate the front page as a matter of routine. Links which are often only tangentially related to hacking (at best), seems really odd.

I'm not particularly fond of political discussion on HN, but this particularly political environment is so insane that it ought to be discussed in more and more places. And I am keen on hearing the perspective of HN readers in particular on what this President and government is doing. It's a unique perspective, particularly when the discourse occurs in a community setting, and it ought not to be suppressed in order to preserve romantic ideas about what HN is "supposed" to be.

The guidelines have always stated that we should discuss whatever hackers find interesting. A subset (at least) find these topics interesting and worth discussion on occasion.

Because iPads are generally limited to basic computing tasks, I think the lifecycle is even longer than a typical laptop. My iPad Air from 2013 still feels brand new to me. Still looks great and I'm sure will still be getting used in another 4 years.

Edit: By comparison, the iMac I bought at the same time as the iPad Air is starting to feel sluggish and outdated, particularly as it is not a 5K version so switching between a retina iPad and a retina MacBook and a retina iMac feels jarring when using the iMac.

I think the most striking thing about burnout is that, in my experience, it actually takes time to recover from it. Like a wound that requires healing.

It wasn't a situation where you simply remove a stressor and everything automatically gets better. A problem was created in my brain and it took a long time before I was functioning properly again.

Pixel had an ad campaign?

Yes, it would be a bummer if you think you are getting $100K. But I'm hoping that people who are competent with their savings have some understanding of inflation's effects on their savings.

I agree with you completely. I view my current income as almost irrelevant when it comes to determining how much of a retirement nest egg I need to have.

My approach is to actually contemplate what retirement looks like and develop a budget based on that to determine what our expenses will be, and subsequently how much income will be required to support that lifestyle.

Wouldn't it be more like $60K?

The $3.56/bottle you see on their website when switched to Canada as your location is not CAD, It's USD.

I just ordered a 12 pack at $3.75 a bottle ($45/case - the price shown when you're not subscribing) and was charged $45USD which turned out to be $61.64 on my credit card, or $5.14CAD a bottle.

I didn't mean to suggest that you specifically were brushing anything off; it was more of a general statement. Sorry about that.

What are other contingency plans that can be put in place?

I also have a years' worth of living expenses saved, and it also took me about 3 years to build. It has zero impact on my stress level at work. I don't think I feel any more free to leave than if I only had a months worth saved. The idea of leaving and potentially burning through most or all of that portion of my family's savings while I look for another job is no more appealing or satisfying than just staying in the stressful job.

Perhaps I'd feel differently if I had several more years saved or if I were more stressed at work. The thing about work stress that builds up is that your mental health declines and you can begin to think very irrationally. Paranoia and depression can set in. I've seen devastating examples of this with people I know. I think it's important not to minimize it or brush it off and to understand that what seems obvious to you or I may not be obvious at all to someone who is feeling burnt out, desperate and depressed from their work situation.

Count me in too.

This is great; thanks!

> If you see a toxic culture, leave.

This is easier said than done when your own self-worth and ability to see your own value is diminished due to stress, when you have a mortgage and financial obligations and a family to take care of. Not many people are financially independent enough to just quit a job the moment they feel it's become "toxic".

> I had a Pavlovian response to the sound of email arriving on my phone, to the point where it would be in my nightmares.

I went through a rough period last summer where a project I was involved in was a complete disaster. I basically spent 24x7 terrified that a new "emergency" was going to roll in on my phone via email with a stakeholder telling me how this new issue was ruining their life and how disappointed they were; an issue which I was expected to deal with immediately. After that summer and to this day I keep my phone in "Do Not Disturb" mode 24x7 and treat it as a passive communications device that I only check when I want to, because I have literally run out of notification tones on my phone that don't send a burst of adrenaline through my body upon hearing them.

This is even after that project is over. I feel like it permanently damaged my brain and my ability to deal with stress.

I have used smartwatches that notify you when an email comes in by vibrating on your wrist. I view these as modern-day human "shock collars" where the shock collar beneficiary is actually not you, but your employer. I actually warn others against falling into that trap of wearing a "shock collar for work". Having your arm vibrate the moment an email comes in is not healthy.