Same. And yet so many people are unwilling to take the leap of faith. It's sad because the same thinking patterns that cause them to avoid Sarno likely lead to a lot of grief in other areas of their lives.
I agree with everything you're saying except for your usage of purpose. To me, life is not about doing meaningful and purposeful things. It's about satisfying yourself. With the right incentives, we can satisfy ourselves in ways that are meaningful and purposeful. Finding the right work with the right people is extremely satisfying. If you don't enjoy your work, it's likely you are not working on the right things or you have some mental health issues which are lingering beneath the surface.
My takeaway is that people who aren't self aware are less likely to be able to change for the better. Which I can agree with. How does one become self aware though?
If there are a lot of interviewers like that FB guy on teamblind who just searches for the hardest question and fails everyone for the tiniest error because he's fed up with the interview process, then yeah, there are problems.
This is such a key skill. It's important to judge whether a person is open to feedback or not. A lot people assume others are open to hearing criticism. If your manager is a narcissist and you start pointing out things that they are doing wrong without earning their trust you are as good as toast.
Another way to look at this is that this person was far too invested in their work and as a result had a negative experience. It's likely they would have similar anxiety issues in most workplaces. Easy to blame a toxic culture. Much harder to accept that your personality is part of the problem. And if this person could accept that, they'd hopefully realize that in caring so much about their work, they were damaging their own mental health.
Unfortunately that still doesn't increase the supply. If Sweden, like Canada, is experiencing higher population growth than housing growth, prices will continue increasing. There are simply not enough places to live.
Except for all those stories of people who have been interviewing for months but can't seem to land anything. Much better to realize you have developed some behavioral problems and seek treatment for them while you are employed rather than after you leave your job.
If they want to make the biggest impact they should still sell the oil but invest in technology that might mitigate climate change. Playing defense when your overall impact on climate change is so small is a poor choice.
These people are entitled to their opinion. Pushing back is likely to make them stronger. Better to focus on the positives like finding the right answer brings a sense of accomplishment and showing one's work teaches the process of deduction. Those are some useful skills to learn with math while white supremacy culture can be learned about in other settings. We don't force people to do math in English class, it doesn't seem right to learn about white supremacy in math class.
Life opportunity cost. When you buy a house you are making a big commitment. It will guide the path of your life. These days with remote work that's less and more of an issue. What if you would be happier living in the south of France?
Love your analysis. And I appreciate you cautioning me on my approach. The interesting thing is I believe your attempt to find answers based on data here is the biggest trap there is when looking at back pain. Are structural issues with backs the cause of back pain? In Sarno's book he talks about how people will often feel back pain and then search for an answer. As a result they'll get a bunch of tests done and perhaps find that they have a bulging disk or some other abnormality. Then they assert that the bulging disk is the reason for their pain and perhaps consider some expensive invasive surgery. However, a huge proportion of the population has a bulging disk with no pain associated. Sure it's possible that the ones with pain are different from the ones without. Except back surgery rarely cures the pain and instead leaves people with life altering mobility issues permanently. Sadly it's often difficult for people to deal with psychological issues because they don't know where to begin. They might not even notice the things that bother them because they bury them so deep. In western culture it is much more acceptable to get metal rods shoved into your back than to see a therapist.
I thought some more about this. I'd like to know how many people with ED have back issues vs the general population. If the percentage is similar, then it's entirely possible his back issues are rooted in psychological stress.
Fascinating to see somebody analyze their own life. Seeing what he's written I draw such different conclusions about the underlying causes of the events which passed over the last few years. In particular the way he analyzed his relationship and the fact he still feels somewhat responsible just blows my mind. He's far too hard on himself.
I'd like an update on his back issues. Back issues are often the result of people not dealing with stress in their life. Speaking from personal experience and a huge army of others who have had a similar experience (John Sarno crew).
Sorry to hear you operate at such a high baseline anxiety. I certainly hope you've explored every avenue outside addictive medications for getting it under control.
And yes, I think any American should rightfully be terrified of being bankrupted by medical bills. But the world is a big place and a lot of it is much safer than the US.
In Toronto, my doc is always able to see me within two weeks for something non-urgent. They also have 24/7 number I can call to speak with a doc. And my doc responds to emails within a few hours. If there's something non-urgent but I want an answer right away I can go to a walk in clinic and be seen within an hour. The vast majority of Canadians live in dense areas like I do and have access to the same level of care.
You must live in a place that already had good taxi services. There's no comparison in the level of service between Uber and every taxi service I ever took outside of those in Japan / Korea.
The popularity of Uber given the horrific regulated taxi services made banning Uber politically dangerous in many cities.
Seems like the scandals at Google affect the bottom line far more than at other companies (Amazon, Coinbase, etc.). The inability to form and push consensus points to a leadership problem in my book.
I applaud your ability to recognize topics you don't like but it's worthwhile to ask yourself if you are avoiding those topics because they are not worth your time or because they make you uncomfortable. Without exploring that discomfort -- even just on your own -- those topics will always haunt you.