There's an old joke that emacs stands for Eight Megs And Constantly Swapping.
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Many people have an expectation that boyfriend/girlfriend status is essentially a trial period for marriage. If it's not "going anywhere" it's a waste of time.
As people age, if they have this perspective, they tend to become significantly less patient.
I'd like something between hooking up with a stranger and recreating my life (again) around a new person. It's hard to do that once you're older and I'm actively avoiding being financially intertwined with another person.
Besides having a lot to lose, I also question if I'm desired because of what I can financially bring to the table and as a labor source. Maybe I'm cynical, but this seems to be the calculus of a lot of single parents. I'm not looking to be the solution to someone else's life problems.
Pain, uncertainty, and constant work.
Make peace with that and you'll find these are the spices that make life much richer.
I wholeheartedly disagree with the type of argument you are making.
Choir would have sounded similar to queer.
Remember this is from middle English before the vowel shift.
What's the game?
This seems remarkably high. Is this including "cheating", the very name of which implies it's not considered ok?
You're making the mistake of trying to rationalize a feeling. For non-depressed people, doing something that qualifies as "touching grass" brings joy, regardless of rationalization.
For you, it does not and your brain rationalizes it as pointless.
It helped me to realize feelings lead to rationalizations, not logic.
They next step is to consider why you're in this state and how best to proceed. I suggest trying exercise specifically to force endorphin release and revisit how this impacts your feelings as a reaction to the situation.
If you find yourself thinking different thoughts after something chemically impactful, like exercise, you've presented evidence that there's a deeper cause that you can't just rationalize away.
You go to a restaurant: how do you have any kind off conversation beyond maybe a joke to someone in a line? My impression is that people are friendly but not interested in anything beyond pleasantries with a rando.
https://reason.com/2022/08/31/the-student-loan-debate-shows-...
I would support a truly civil-liberties-only ACLU, but not what they currently are.
Democracy doesn't mean freedom.
What you're describing is the modern face of communism.
I know you're not supposed to use the word because it really upsets communists.
The people helping can come in, help for a period of time, and leave feeling good. The person getting help likely feels no shame in the situation.
Would the community have a frolic if a man was an alcoholic with depression and his wife divorced him and moved away from the community? What if the farmer was injured in the tornado, say paralyzed? Some things aren't feel good situations when you come help for a week. Some things don't get better, they're just endured.
The advice in this article is good, but applies to a narrow set of situations that, honestly, are easier to deal with. A barn can be rebuilt.