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Your opinion is perfectly valid.

The main expectations I am driven by are to provide the child with adequate resources to thrive, to not neglect the child, and to give them a good footing to navigate this life. I'm not sure if these are expectations that can reasonably be relaxed, I'm just pretty much resigned I'm in for a long slog to provide these for the good of the child at great effort to myself whether it pleases me or not -- the circle of life I guess.

Or the fifth state, colic. It can last for months and the child will cry every waking hour. The binary flag is stuck 'on' which in my experience set every family member into a meltdown so you'll get no relief, because a baby that cries inconsolably for hours (months!) on end and can't be fixed is kryptonite to many people.

So yeah, good fucking luck if that happens. You'll have to feed on a schedule, change regularly and check even more regularly, guess appropriate temperature etc because the baby will be screaming bloody murder if awake no matter what.

I think it's ok if you don't find joy. Personally I had a very involved father and supportive partner. I understand my duty and am fulfilling it with full acceptance and gravity, I just keep this one piece of independence for my sanity-- the right to the validity of my emotion regarding how that duty makes me feel.

Once you experience the other side, outside of a psuedo-anonymous forum you're not really allowed to have the other opinion, and you'll quickly learn to shut up or 'lie' or become a hated pariah. It becomes a bit of an echo chamber.

Meh I mean it's true for some not others. I had a kid and never particularly found the richness and depth emotional feeling.

Of course if you express the opinion you find parenting to be basically another duty you must fulfill to the best of your ability despite finding little to no joy from the task, it will be taken poorly. So you internalize the lie, buy into it the best you can to pretend to yourself you don't have an opinion that makes everyone hate you, because apparently parenting is the one duty that is 'wrong' unless you find it satisfying.

Feels like a bunch of people got the 'dope' that makes parents feel emotional rewarded from the insane amount of labor it requires, others internalize the 'lie' so they have a way to respond to others in a socially appropriate way.

I was no "real" soldier but due to some weird circumstances I fought in a war. The difficult part of returning home is everything is so low stakes, the freedom to ride around on a Hilux living by your wits and a rifle turns into a world where you can easily survive flipping burgers and you have a toddler screaming at you because you selected the wrong color cup and the HOA has a meltdown because they decided the wrong species of plant is growing on your yard. Boring.

Sometimes you dream of the war because life is so simple and the goal is obvious, and every decision seems impactful to your survival.

What I really care about is healthcare, childcare, education, owning a home for my family, and good food. How are my wages doing against that?

Everything but food -- downhill.

I love this quote, and suspect the lack of wisdom was referring to wisdom to be a good steward of the public resources rather than their infinite wisdom in finding cunning and deceptive ways to plunder it.

I mean the US effectively outlawed an arguably most versatile of all vehicles for vast spaces of US, the compact truck, which fits somewhere in the middle of vehicle sizes. I suspect most of those people had to move to another class, perhaps to these larger trucks.

The only reason why an SUV is economical for me is I'm pillaging sedan and small car owners by making them pay my share.

>decades because the only force acting upon carmakers is the desire of the car buyer.

Trucks, and perhaps some cars also got bigger also because of fuel efficiency regulations (CAFE) that require a larger footprint if gas mileage is worse. They had to make for instance the Tacoma much larger to match a barely changed engine. And foreign small import trucks were stifled with the chicken tax, pushing consumers towards Americas McGigantic brands.

Privatizing all roads would ironically probably be the fastest way to cut down on oversized vehicles. Nobody wants to pay a quadratic weighted toll on the GVWR of a bunch of extra SUV, but when they have to pay it all in taxes non-quadratically anyway it's a fuck it go big moment.

Yeah I bought some extremely cheap property through a realtor and felt I made out like a bandit vs through a lawyer or dealing with that shit myself. Realtors want to charge a percentage? Cool story bros, I'll burn out the green labor doing my work for pennies on the cheap shit then use a flat lawyer for anything real money.

It was worth it for me when buying cheap land. Since it's percentage based the amount was quite low; cheaper than a lawyer and I had a license to use the realtor association buyer contracts and connections to helpful people in the title office etc without having to hunt down and get these myself. When I calculate all the time I would have spent hunting down the right people, contracts etc it was a bargain against the buyer commission.

I wouldn't want to use a realtor for land worth more than 50k though. Use the percentage commission to work for you not against you.

You pay the tax to have someone fight it anyway, with a side of dealing with a police apparatus so powerful you can only hope to run from when they turn against you in violation of civil protections.

Feds got a search warrant for me because an unnamed dog I never met accused me of wrongdoing and told an unnamed officer who told a named detective who told a judge. The bar is low. Sounds like they need an imaginary dog that can't be held to testify so we'll just have to believe it .

I was not intending to make that case. Negative real interest in our real life reality where the better off have better access to credit nearly certainly hurts cash based poor by making homes etc cost less in real terms to the rich at the expense of inflating the poor.

Basically the poor have worse access to credit than other groups so when interest goes negative in real terms the poor pay for it.

An electric range for $60 goes a long way. Hell when I was homeless I used a portable gas stove that even works on siphoned gasoline, and packs up in a bag about the diameter of a cellphone wide, hardly ever needed to eat out.

Yep. It's using the fed to reallocate money from the inflated cash based poor to the credit rich home owner. Home owners are basically using government induced negative real interest rates to regressively tax non-homeowners.

We got blown away by the pandemic that locked up the housing stock. So I cheated and built my own house for like 1/4 the cost it is on the market as it's almost all markup from the opportunity cost of losing the 0% loan.

For those that have lost hope seriously consider a prefab for like 60k dropped on some vacant land. Where I live you don't even need inspections or license to do it yourself. But you need to develop the land yourself, and not hire out a GC, because developers will always be chasing high margin luxury builds rather than the low margin methods I've discovered for economical housing.

I have no idea. For instance does France require special flight clearance after taking antidepressants even for non-psych gastrointestinal issues?

Black and Native American life expectancy drag it down a fair bit. A median European dropped in US only loses a few years. In fact this goes for lots of stuff; drop someone from Norway in America and their chance of dying by gun doesn't change much either.

Yes the federal regulations make demands in order to connect. The feds can release their hostages and drop the federal regulation demands and deregulate and Texas would surely connect to these interstate grids as they did to Mexico.

Texas is connected to Mexico and some other exceptions. The fed though would rather frozen dead Texans than deregulate and allow ERCOT to connect as they do to Mexico. Fed basically holding some of the poorer rural Texans hostage to influence some rich ERCOT bureaucrats to change their regulations -- pretty fucked up IMO.

I try to reconcile this with the fact DEAs judge 30 years ago ruled pot should be rescheduled and here we are 30 years later and only now has the president gotten to attempt to get the executive underlings to act as they themselves ruled after their judges review.

Yes there should be distinctions if level of corruption. For instance stealing candy from a baby and putting an ad in the paper saying you've done it is probably less bad than stealing candy when nobody sees it. And no I don't think this is the same as stealing candy, since some fucking pedant is gonna make that comment.

Yep. Ruth Ginsburg was another corrupt one, taking lavish trips funded by Israeli billionaires. But whoops, I wasn't supposed to mention the ones people here may like.

Plenty of rural places like that. Many on HN would call them unregulated shitholes but it's not hard to find a place where police are an hour drive away and the residents are expected for better or worse to handle our own business.

We like it that way, and we're glad the others feel unwelcome here.

I would argue path to PR on humanitarian grounds, but not citizen centric ones. It's probably ideal from a citizen's perspective to be like Dubai and attract talent with easy professional temp visas and then shitcan them the second they run out of money or become inconvenient.

I knew you'd understand these nuances a lot faster once presented with an American imperfect analogue. The truth as I gather is somewhere in between -- deportation extremely rare but possible especially in case of serious crime.

That's one way you could interpret it. You might say the same thing applies to visa overstays in the US, which isn't a crime and essentially unenforced except at easily predictable attempts to elicit self snitching at inland border checkpoints.