ravishi

Isn't that an empty criteria? Doesn't the system disengage before an accident by design?

Well, as I've stated in all my replies, it was valuable information to me.

Yes, it is a bit of a ranty comment. Yes, it shares their opinion alone. That is quite clear. And yes, there might be different opinions out there.

But in the midst of their opinion, they raise awareness to a point not much talked in the tutorials or other material I've seen about Phoenix: it might seem easy, but has it's drawbacks. Drawbacks which could be easily avoided by power users, but might not seem obvious to a newcomer. That's it. The rest is description of such drawbacks, from the poster's perspective.

I find this informative because it is information that I haven't seen anywhere else. Not in tutorials, not in presentations, not in any other place I've seen people talking about the subject.

Of course after thinking for a while it becomes obvious that a framework built on such a "different" platform with it's own unique patterns and quirks would of course fit such a description. Any tech could, depending where you're coming from. That's OK. And it is also OK that enthusiasts of any tech would not present themselves in such a harsh way. It's all good.

I actually found it informative. It gave me a quick overview of the issues with this famous web framework that I would probably not find anywhere else.

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Have you ever tried sharing your screen? Do your organization uses Microsoft Teams? It is barely usable for quite some people.

Until they have to share screen in a meeting and give up tweaking flags in different places, login using X and never look back again.

Seriously for anyone who works remotely sharing screen is essential, but it still doesn't work flawlessly in Wayland.

Sure. I mostly avoid looking at it daily. Instead I look once a week and correlate with journaling entries.

I measure it with a Mi Band. It might not be the most precise measuring method, but I feel like I'm able to correlate "better sleep" shown in the app with "better mood" or "feeling better" the day after. And quitting weed does improve both of those measures.

Of course I was not able to notice this when I was younger. Only now at 32 and a family these measurements are starting to actually be noticeable.

I often wonder if that's the key to why I feel different whenever I'm able to quit weed for a while. It doesn't help to just limit usage and dosage, it still affects my REM sleep.

I was in this same spot couple years ago. I read this book that was recommended in this very same forum. It's called Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool. It's by Emily Oster. It was helpful.

I'm happy to read you have good friends. I have a really hard time in that front. Few friends, unable to nourish the friendships. They mostly live away. I have started to take action to keep in touch recently, but I'm still just learning how to do it. I would like to do it in person rather than through text or calls, which is impossible at the moment. I have no clue how to make new ones either, since I work from home. Still an unresolved issue too and like you I might just accept it for now, keeping an eye for future opportunities.

I guess this is why my family has become so important lately. The perils of fatherhood away from any support just push me in this direction.

My current solution is to write many times a day (each hour when possible). Write short sentences with key information and then move on. Sometimes I'll edit some old entries to remove details and reduce length. The best part is that "key information" also changes, so it also ends up reflecting what was important to me at the time.

Not OP, but have been journaling for the past 7 years with some pauses in between.

The greatest tools for me are:

1. When I'm feeling as if I'm stuck I go back sometime (like a week) and confirm that I've indeed progressed.

2. My recollection of events is better just because I'm logging them. If I really want to confirm something I can go back and check. This is specially helpful in day to day issue resolution with my wife, which has been an important topic for us.

3. Sometimes I go back a year or more to just have some memories. It helps me to feel human because I had big troubles with long term memory.

That is a great observation and fits properly with my situation. My father is "old style", while I strive to overcome sexism and develop an emotional bond with my son. I am proud to be involved in his care for his first year and a half: bathing, diaper changing and sleep were all my duties. That is indeed half of the picture. The one I am proud and hopeful about.

The other half involves religion. This is the lost cause. His whole world view is built on top of dogmatic religious practice, which I have long rejected. Up to this point it didn't bother me at all: I respect his religious practices and even engage while visiting. But I won't hide my lifestyle choices because of this. I try my best to be considerate, but something will leak. I am not going to deceive him.

There was a brief moment when he was disconnected from his practices. I was maybe 19 at the time. We talked about life and I got some "father advice". It didn't last long, and now all advice is tainted by religion. It is not useful nor practical. I can accept it, be considerate and try to adapt it, but it is ultimately useless. This drives us apart slowly.

I have always taken my good relationship with my father for granted. Not sure how to properly express this in english, but I don't remember having issues with him. We were present in each others' lives but while at the same time not connected.

Yesterday while visiting him it just struck me like a lightning strike that I had no connection with him. Our world views are so fundamentally different that I might have disrespected him by some honest mistake. It was a difficult realization to process, but I feel like there's no going back from this.

Something very deep inside has changed. I spent the night awaken next to my toddler thinking how I want a different fate for our own relationship, while at the same time having no clue how to even bring this up to my father. He expects something from me that I just can't (and don't) want to give.

Still, I think this is progress, somehow.

It actually feels really polished!

Thank you for sharing. Just applied from Brazil.

I've started full-vim and eventually settled for exactly that. It's been a success. Recently had to work from Windows after years on Mac, also using VSCode after years of Intellij and it wasn't a big deal because the Vim experience was mostly on par between Intellij and VSCode. I still prefer Intellij, but the remote coding (over SSH) experience on VSCode is just so much better.

You just do it. Over and over, until you get used to it. (It being: doing stuff you don't want to).

At least this is what I've been trying for the past five years, specially after the pandemic (which sucked the last drops of motivation) and a child (which showed me that I can indeed do stuff that's required but not desired).

It sometimes works, it somestimes doesn't work. But sticking to it seems to be the whole point, so I'm trying. What could I lose, right?

Also take all the advice from this thread and experiment with it as tools: find the tools that work for you and keep them around. Reach for them in moments of need, but also accept you can't always use them all the time and it's OK.

Seeking an ADHD diagnosis/treatment might also help, but it won't magically solve everything. It's a tool just like the others.

Thank you! I have been trying that on and off for years. Now I have doubled down on it as I observe my toddler grow up and how being present in the moment helps him self-regulate. It's been like something finally clicked for me. I still struggle, tho, but at least have this daily reminder to renew my interest.

Do you have any references like books, lectures, blogs or any information sources on these practices and the buddhist principles behind it?

Would you mind sharing a "starting point" for this? I would like to learn how happiness works and why I am not happy, I just have no idea how to navigate or approach this enourmous and sometimes conflicting concept that seems to be Buddhism.

I feel like I can get a glimpse of how these people can pull it out. I have done stuff. Cool stuff, even. My brain has had moments where it didn't shout why all the time. What really wonder me is how they can be _consistent_ at it. How can they pull it off everyday for a long time? I'm crashing every week. Sometimes I can hold this glimpse for a couple of months, but if there is something certain in my life is that it'll crash at some point. And it will be painful.

I used to spend time configuring my wallpaper and many other things in my computers. Today I use it only for work and change only the strictly necessary. I want less friction.

Today I hit a though decision: I missed the niceties of fish shell on the VM I work on, but everyone else uses bash so it's so much more convenient to share commands through chat, pairing sessions, etc. I have postponed the decision.

I understand you're tired, but I'm leaving this source for the sake of informing others:

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/mar/24/lula-judge-was...

Maybe that wasn't the final ruling that set him free, but it was a very important step into it.

> He walked free because of some jurisdiction bullshit and his judgement is pending retrial to this day.

Collaboration between prosecution and judges [1] is not bullshit.

Also his judgement is not pending. Some charges were dropped by the new court because there were not enough evidences and the other case is now prescribed [2].

[1] https://www.ohchr.org/en/press-releases/2022/04/brazil-crimi...

[2] https://oglobo.globo.com/politica/juiza-federal-do-df-reconh...

I feel challenged, but capable. My body has been anxious, but I have been able to deal with daily life quite effectively.

That's exactly what happened to me. I began to take it when the pandemic hit and latter decided to stop. But it was transformative in the sense that it made me aware of how handicapping my anxiety was. My doctor didn't want me to stop tho. I clearly match the criteria to stop (stable for an year), while he still recommended that I continued. He didn't veto my stopping either, but it was my decision.

I loved the article. It puts to words some patterns I have been developing in my mind throughout the years. I haven't got the experience to go that hardcore on localness yet, so my current algo is to seek destinations where the locals go to tourist. I find it a confortable middle ground between the shiny global touristy places and "contrarian ultra-local" places (if I can borrow a term tossed around here, not judging the article in any way).

If you grow along with your kid everyone benefits. For me this is the greatest gift life has offered me.