"“Some rogue country will develop these things.” My answer is that one, we want to make them feel guilty for doing it"
Feel guilty?! The man may have contributed greatly to the field of AI, but that kind of comment just comes across as very naive about how the world works.
"Shouldn’t AI experts work with the military to ensure this happens?
If they had the right moral values, fine."
The military adheres to the laws of war and is lead by a civilian politician, not a pope. A nation's military carries out the policies of the civilian leadership. If you want a moral military, get moral politicians.
I don't understand why the distate at one's own military forces. These people are not aliens, they're fellow Americans, or French or Japanese or wherever you're from. At least for the major democracies, these men and women are volunteering to defend your ass. They don't get to start wars, the politicans you vote for do.
I very much want the military forces of my country to kick the ass of any threat, and if some tech such as AI could help eliminate that threat faster and with less blood than brilliant.