Also, framing it as "us vs them" misses the point. For instance, in my world (Data & Analytics), there's no universe where Spark makes sense for <1TB data or using Kafka for what could be solved using with more simple and predictable batch processing, yet we still see them used in wild implementations that clearly don't need that scale. Those implementations can end up needing a lot of headcount and budget for support without adding any value whatsoever and sometimes even ending up in a more brittle platform. Complexity often comes from misguided choices, not just ego.
I've seen enormous data teams at startups, by that I mean bigger than WhatsApp engineering team in its prime pre-Meta (~30 people). That's a red flag, especially when they're processing far less data.