Can you elaborate on the Christmas thing? I have a very different view than you on Christmas "magic" than you, I believe.
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I once wore a glitter sweatshirt through airport security. It made the backscanner machine go crazy and mark my entire shirt area as suspect, back and front. TSA was like "oh, it's the glitter on your shirt." As a result I was subjected to the most ineffective "pat down" ever. The TSA agent ran her hands across my shoulders and clavicle area and that's it. I could have hidden a small arsenal of weapons inside my bra, strapped to my arms, or strapped to my belly. It would be funny if we weren't paying millions for that "security."
http://divacup.com/how-it-works/care-and-cleaning/
"Remember to empty and wash your DivaCup at least twice a day, a minimum of every 12 hours.
If you are unable to wash The DivaCup after removal (for instance when using a public restroom), wash your hands thoroughly before entering the stall, empty the contents in the toilet and simply use a dry or damp tissue to clean the cup. At the next convenient time, clean as per the above instructions."
As far as how it would work in rural India, dunno, as long as you have regular access to soap and portable water.
Everyone has their own preferences.
>Are scenarios like this really common?
Very common.
>have not heard of them dealing with such harassment
Doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Opening up about harassment opens you up to more problems than it solves sometimes. You get labeled as a trouble maker or people don't believe you or say you made it up or whatever.
These places were pretty friggin boring though, just a bunch of sitting around doing not much of anything except playing with yarn with minimal supervision.
The "free camp" (as we called it) was especially boring.
1) That's 100% incorrect
2) That isn't even what was said.
>women end up with the kids the vast majority of the time, and the only time they don't is when there's seriously wrong with them (e.g. abusive, mentally ill, etc.).
Once again, completely and totally incorrect. The "vast majority" of people that I personally know about don't have the woman ending up with the kids. I know of one guy whose ex-wife took off halfway across the country and left him with the kids.
I also know (and hate) someone who is male and did the same - took off halfway across the country and left his ex (girlfriend) with the kid.
I would say that women can tend to be unfair with the kids. Insisting "I'm going to get my way" and the father just giving it to her rather than fight in court over it.
My sister in law isn't abusive or mentally ill.
The vast majority of my clothes were hand-me-downs or thrift store or sometimes sales rack stuff. My mom and her sisters and brothers passed around garbage bags full of their kids' old clothes for the smaller kids and clothes were passed on to coworkers and friends. Several kids all wore clothes until they fell apart. I was allowed to have one pair of shoes (only from Payless) and I wore them either until they didn't fit or until the next schoolyear came. My parents didn't spend hardly anything at all on clothes.
Medical costs obviously are high (unless you are in the military)
I never even felt deprived or anything either. Not being able to pick out my clothes wasn't even a big issue for me.
You'd have to basically be homeless to save enough to be able to retire very early on a modest income such as $30,000.
Consider: When I was single I lived a very very very comfortable life on $22,000 a year (cash, not income). I put that much in my checking account and everything else in savings and investment. This was after I spent several years putting the majority of my pay on loans to become debt free and paid off the $60,000 in student loans and a very small car loan.
If someone makes a salary of $30,000 a year than they probably take home around $22,000 after taxes and insurance. It would be much less comfortable for them to have a lot of savings. True, not impossible, but much much harder than me since their takehome pay is equal to my "frugal" pay. They would have to give up much more than I do. Obviously you can't max out your 401(k) and IRA on that salary, maxing those out would be more than your take home pay! Basically - not possible until you get past median income (which is around $50k)
As an aside I don't think children have to be that expensive... Granted I don't have them but I see all my friends spending a massive amount of money on very silly things for their kids. Nobody needs the majority of crap that is bought for kids. Household size has, IIR, doubled in the last 60 years. It isn't like kids' needs have changed to take up double space since my grandparents were raising them - it is parents just give them more.
> (People in the military, prison and institutions are excluded from these figures.)
Names (just like everything else) have fads. Fads come and go.
Ok, lets break it down - humans are a large group of people with a lot of different life goals and motives and their selection of mates can't be generalized as such. Not all humans fit into little boxes such as "alpha male." Or even "male" and "female." What are "good genes" anyways that these "alpha males" supposedly possess? Why are they good or desirable? Do women care about genes when selecting a partner or are partners selected some other way such as the mere-exposure effect or for cultural reasons? Who are these "alpha males" who desire to never setting down ever and do nothing but have sex with multiple women for the rest of their lives? There certainly isn't a dichotomy of men - those with "good" genes that women swoon over but refuse to raise a child and those with "bad" genes that women don't want but will raise children. Then the rapist hiding in the shadows who are somehow not part of society and don't have consensual sex ever? That is obvious if you spend some time with, well, anyone. Making extremely broad and silly assumptions about groups of people is just not productive.
Every single person I know who is male and has lots of sexual partners are the ones who really do want to raise children and "settle down," probably moreso than their peers with less sexual partners. But they wanted to have years of sex with lots of women first then when they get older raise children. The women they have sex with don't want "genes."
What about people who want to adopt, gays who may or may not want children, asexuals who may or may not want children? Etc. Most people who don't desire children also desire a mate so what do they look for?
Anyways, it was completely off topic. It doesn't relate to lizards in any way whatsoever.
I've been raped but also have (what I would consider) rape fantasies. My sexual assault isn't at all like my rape fantasies. I can't say I understand it either but they are totally different in my mind. My fantasies are different in that I have fantasies about resisting my husband (someone I trust completely) who then holds me down "against" my will and "forces" it on me while I struggle to physically "resist" but ultimately lose. It's roleplaying and when you are roleplaying it isn't like reality by definition. When I was actually raped it was different but I'm not going to describe that here because I don't want to have to defend myself.
Of course that also has absolutely nothing to do with whatever that creepy dude was talking about comparing yellow lizards with breeding rapists. We can just also say the best rapists aren't the kind that are strangers who jump out of bushes (the kind that society hates). My rapist was a charismatic "lady's man." My rape was never reported but many years later my rapist is currently sitting in jail for raping someone else. Part of me feels like I'm responsible for the other women who he raped after me because I never said anything. I'm also sure the other woman who reported him probably got a lot of backlash too.
It probably helps that my assaults was a very long time ago and I didn't start having these fantasies until probably a decade later.
Plus I'm too busy getting my actual work done to "market" myself.
I'm in my 30s with 10 years of experience. I look like I'm 12. I get mistaken for a teenager - very often. Nobody will take me seriously if I include a picture with my resume.