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Wow a whole year...

I make 120k and I could only afford my wife not being at work for 2 months. I don't live in a HCOL area. Nearly everyone I know that makes a household income of around 100k right now struggles, and that is with mortgage payments closer to the 1000k mark than my closer to 2000k mark. I'm in my 30's and just bought a home recently, like many my age.

We had to budget hard, food cost in general is high. Add a baby to that, it really hit home. Wife pumped, and it helped offset cost in the first few months. But luckily Wife was able to get back to work in only two months time. I would have loved 6-12 months for her to be at home. But America sucks, and I would need to pretty much make 180k to justify it.

Just buy the tubs of legos, and let the do what they want. Lego is just fine.

Playing Video Games, Smoking Weed, Jerkin Off, etc isn't going to get your life on track.

I'm a traveling controls engineer, systems integrator, it is not a easy life. I've had plenty of burnout moments, those 100hr weeks where you worked everyday just getting the job done. As that is what needs to happen when a scheduled shutdown of a facility that pulls in over a million dollars a day is non operational. Falling behind is not an option. Luckily for me I've had pretty good luck for the most part and have always been on top of things.

But issues do happen, like the electrician landing 120v to a analog card that the lead times for makes it unobtanium. And with that the old VFD's that relied on that card for a return speed reference. In those times using generic remote IO you had in your truck with a analog card can get things up and running, and make you look like a hero. But going without sleep to get it workin is not enjoyable. Anyone that knows AB Hardware and its shitty support of Modbus would know. Using a add-on you've never used, as you'd normally use a red lion in this use case.

My body aches all the time. and I always have a full work load. On top of three kids at home.

There is no excuse to being lazy. Even pain. Disability is min wage, it is a sad shitty life. My wife's mom is disabled, she has to live on what would be considered poverty wages. She doesn't do anything with her life, and she can't drive because of said disability.

Get to the Gym, get a job, get life back on track.

If you are done with programming, deliver pizza.

My best friend is a full stack web dev, but he too would rather not work as the idea of having day to day responsibilities is too much. He moved homes a year ago, and it still looks like he moved last week. Issue? he smokes pot non stop and gets by on minimal contract work while his wife bring in 80% of the income.

X11 was designed for use as a remote session. Largely built for Unix, these Unix machines we largely accessed remotely. Local Machines were not as powerful as the mini computers of the time that would run the more heavy duty applications.

Honestly it really wasn't until SGI and NeXT did we see powerful mini computers on the desk running GUI applications in the 90s.

X11 is due for a replacement, but users just dont want to let go. Linux GUI based applications are still a small user base compared to the headless nature Linux normally gets used for.

For every 1 GNU GUI using Linux user, there are 100+ Linux installs that run completely headless. So the demand to move to Wayland is small.

You are better off running a VM for dockers. That way that entire VM is portable.

The ZFS Filesystem is a nice feature

As Someone that runs Proxmox and ESXI.

That is hardly true.

The ESXI UI is vastly cleaner and more VM Focused. The network stack is easier to work with, and setting up passthrough is dead easy. A big plus to ESXI is how easy it is to export a VM and move it to another machine. The Export/Import method on Proxmox sucks, and all CLI. Plus there are a lot of premade VMware images out there that spool up in minuets on ESXI, getting them up and running on proxmox is a chore.

Proxmox is not bad if doing everything from scratch in Proxmox, and you don't need to move VMs arount.

Plus don't get me started on lack of a filebrowser on proxmox.

Performance is better with ESXI anyways. Only downside to ESXI is hardware limitations.

A home is a savings account on its own. Much like investments, a home's value nearly always goes up with the times as long as it is kept up. So much like a 401k the value increases over time, but paying a mortgage is like paying yourself while also paying the bank. The bank gets their interest rate cut, but the actual paying off the home is you paying you in the future.

So while a mortgage vs rent may be pretty close ATM if you are new home buyer (Yeah I wish I was able to buy a home 10 years ago..), your mortgage is putting money into your home as a savings account. And if you ever need some of that money for whatever reason, you refinance. It is real nice and easy

that is not how a 401k works..

You are not at a loss if you don't sell....

Any buying in a down market is ALWAYS better for a younger generation.

S&P500 still has a 10y avg of 11-12%, that means every year that is the avg return. Even if there was 2-3 bad years, the 7-8 good years make up for it... So in 30 years time, it doesn't mater if we had a few bad years of -20% declines. You are still up massively.

Young people have such a lack of understanding when it comes to the stock market and it shows.

If your 401k only avg %5 return per year over a 30y span, you picked the wrong investment methods. Too much in bonds..

Still you should be taking advantage of employer match. Pretty much every employer has a 401k program, use it. SS will be there, but you don't want that to be your life line. Sadly Gen X didn't really understand 401ks, they got them later in life and many didn't fund them correctly. It isn't uncommon to see genXers take money from the 401k later in life with a hit, and it will be on their family to take care of them when SS isn't enough.

Pretty much every job offers a 401k, so not saving is akin to not having a job...

Considering the youngest millennials are in their late 20s, and the majority of us are in our 30s. There are a good amount of us that moved up in our career paths and bought a home. Considering most buy a home in their 30s-40s, that is where more millennials already sit. What currently sucks is us younger millennials are not enjoying the cheap mortgages the older millennials are enjoying.

What really sucks is you pretty much need two incomes to make it work. You can easily get a job making 50k a year no problem. But that doesn't give you much these days. I make 80k and if it wasn't for my partner I would be paycheck to paycheck, and with kids out combine paycheck is still paycheck to paycheck. 110k doesnt do the trick. You pretty much need a household income of 150k to start having a okay life.

I remember the first large crypto wave, when bitcoin shortly shot over $1k. Just for it to sit under $300 for around few years before bouncing back... And bounce back it did.

I'm sorry but people like this have no idea what they are talking about.

Crypto will go back up, it may be 3 years from now who knows.

The Apple TV is a pretty Crappy Device to replace it with. The UI is nearly just as bad.

I will say the new Apple TV remote does make it usable. The old touch one was horrible.

There is no good Dumb TV's.

I'm sorry but nearly any dumb TV has crappy brightness and poor black uniformity. I value a good picture, and if you spend any time comparing TV's on RTings you'd know that budget TV's are not worth it. I personally can not justify spending money on a TV that doesn't even have 400nits of brightness in SDR content, and neither should you. I'd be surprised if any non Smart TV has more than 300nits, most are at best 200 or 250.

The only time anyone should justify a shitty TV, is if that is all they can afford. Still do your research, there are cheap TVs out there that are decent for the money.

Like article above doesn't talk about. Sure maybe you like a microwave with two dials and not smart functions as you like it simple. But if you've never used an inverter based microwave packed full of smart tech, you never used a decent microwave. Its a single button press and perfectly cooked/warmed product every time. No cold spots. Sure a dumb microwave is fine, if you like to waste time.

A Dumb TV is no different. Sure it can be great after tossing a Fire TV stick onto it, and added a sound bar. But it still is going to have a budget picture, may have problems with ARC or no ARC at all, Bad menu system, etc.

For a Budget TV you are better off getting a higher end Hisense TV. Which has a bright Picture and runs Android TV.

You'd have to block it at the router level. Just block the IP addresses the TV is broadcasting too and receiving ads from.

Honestly while LG makes a good TV. WebOS sucks. And their need to push ads is crazy.

That's why I like Sony TV's, Google TV is a better interface. And The homescreen has no ads.

I would just use a fire tv stick, roku, or even better yet a Nvidia shield and not deal with WebOS at all. The Worst thing about LG and Samsung TV's have always been the Interface, but I'd take Samsung's over LG any day of the week.

It smells of Web Dev doing Web Dev things.

It works now, it'll be fine.

Sure a Docker or VM can be easy to rebuild from scratch. But a Database is not.

I learned years ago when a failed HDD took 2TB of data I will never get back.

Honestly I hate builds like this.

I'd rock ESXI as hypervisor, and Truenas as the Storage environment.

Passthrough the SSD's and any Disk controller to TrueNas. I always recommend HDD Array to backup your primary SSD array. This could have all been avoided with ZFS, along with future worry of bitrot.

Then you can run your Primary Linux VM for Docker, and another other standalone Linux VM's you may need. You'll want to keep Truenas on a datastore connected to ESXI, but the rest of the storage back be kept on Truenas and fed back into esxi.

Not only keeps your system portable for future upgrade paths, but keeps your system reliable.

Opensource is not always the best route to take.

I could care less. If someone wants to sleep around their entire life, so be it. But the idea the men are the ones that are more willing to sleep around was proven false years ago. Woman have always been more willing to sleep around than men.

Which is why articles like this always single out young males. Its not that they are unwilling to have sex. They simply just want to have a relationship with a single person.

My oldest Child is in their teens.

And I do stuff with my kids every day.

Dad time is a everyday thing with my children.

Even if it is for only 20 minuets per child. Or hours.

Homework and spending time with family are very important for my kids.

Or maybe when you do have sex it isn't fulfilling enough to last days.

Every couple is different.

For us there is a lot involved. Toys, spankings, choking, dirty talk, lot of movement, etc.

We can do this once a week and the pleasure gained from it will last days.

Also Locations change things up too. Never like spicing this up during a xmas party by sneaking off and getting it on.

Actually me and my wife are both 6 figure earners. I used a common example for young couples where the wife normally earns half if not less than their partner. And while there was a time in my life this was the case, my wife makes close to what I make. And we love each other. But with kids and day to day activities, there isn't enough time in the day. You'd be surprised how much you don't even feel the need for sex when you have so much other enjoyment in life.

Between us working hard so we can retire early in life, we could stop working at the age of 45 if we wanted and our investments would still grow while living off them, I have plenty of enjoyment at home after work. I love cooking, I love engineering and wooding in my shop, I love playing video games, I love programming small little gadgets, I love to learn. Hell I even love to catch up on a TV show with the Wife, or play some Mario Party as a family.

We're in bed by 10 most nights, and I'm up before 6. Me and the Wife don't need to have sex every night. Sure that was a thing years ago, but 15 years in once a week makes up happy.

I get more enjoyment teaching my daughter how to design and build something from start to finish, or playing some Minecraft with my Boys. Making Something for dinner we've never had, etc. My priorates are in the correct space.

Sex is a process, its the foreplay and the physical goodness.

Yeah of course it is fun, and makes your body hurt the next day.

But it is a process, and spending 30 minuets to do something I can rub out in a few minuets isn't always worth it. I am tired, and rest is not an option.

Even when you go on vacation, you are not resting. You are working to allow your kids to have fun. You come home more tired than when you left.

Yeah sexy is fun, and easy. when the time is right. Who has time these days. Time is the one thing I wish I had more of every day.

I've had so many Gen Z interns that I've noticed they dont care about being fired from a job right out of College. Little Drive to keep themselves busy. They don't like to ask questions, and would rather do something wrong than ask and do it right the first time. Even If I show them how to do it right the first time, if you forget, just ask.

There isn't much of a ladder to climb as Millennials are still there to fill the void. Millennials have work experience and work hard.

But there is a notable gap and a Gen Zer is easy to pick from the crowd.

Not all are bad though. In fact many didn't have to struggle like a Millennial did early in life. My first 5 years in the work force was slow moving up the ladder. Entering the workforce in 2008 was not pretty for me.

Problem with GenZ is they didn't eat the flintstone vitamins we Millennial ate, and it shows.

Everyone is having sex.

It just is more likely for a man to only have 1-2 partners before settling down with one. While a female may have had 2-10x that number by the time they settle down.

Its that 1/8 of men that have many partners, while 4/8 woman have many partners.

A man can be a sl*t too.

But you'll find that these days a young man is more likely to want to start a family than a young woman. And this has been proven over and over again by studies.

When it comes to your kids, everyone should want to set them up for life.

My goal even from a young age before kids was to build generational wealth.

We live in a world where money makes a big difference in lifestyle.

Living Paycheck to Paycheck is a shitty way to live life. I did plenty of that early in life, and grew up in a house hold that lived paycheck to paycheck. I don't want that for my kids.

Yet lets ignore the proven statistics showing woman avg higher number of sexual partners in their life than men.

Young Woman are more "Fuk Boi" than most Men. See only a small % of men really end up being "Fuk Boi" Material.

The rest either are financial loosers or work/family becomes their life. Do nothing more than work all day to bring home the big bucks, and spend the rest of their night with their kids and wife.

If you've ever read articles about Tinder and the whole random hookup culture, you'd know it is largely driven by a small % of men and a wider range of woman that are not looking for a relationship at all. And a large % of Men that fail to attract anything.

I found my soulmate early in life and have kids. Work is my life. I find this whole idea of not enough sex stupid. The real goal is and always has been making money. Jerk off and go back to grinding. Retire at 50. Have mid day sex then. Otherwise jerk off and stick to having sex at night before bed.

Cops can earn a good amount, and can move up. But lets be honest this is not a game every cop has the option to do. only so many upper management positions. same with a teacher.

All I meant by it is making six figures by the time you turn 30 is not as easy as a task.

Having Sex more than once a week 15 years into a relationship with 3 kids running around is not alot? I bed to differ. I think for most that would be more than they are currently do.

Having sex daily is a young couple fantasy, and really at this point just waiting time.

Time is the one thing we dont have. If Im not feelin it, and the wife isn't feeling it. I'm not going to force it. And If I want it, and she dont. Rubbing one off out in my office quick after the kids are in bed is no big deal.

This is very true with the Gen Zers, Especially the Early Gen Z. You folk that are in your mid 20's. Really People born after 1995 are not Millennial. Its hard to even justify people born in 94 a Millennial. You don't remember 911, and you didn't experience last last economic recession first hand in the work force. If your first out of HS job was after 2012, You are a Gen Zer.

They simply are struggling, very few have moved up in their career paths. And so far have been one of the most lazy generations.

we live in the 1960s?

Non of this is true in modern America for young folk

I can't stand google docs myself, or using gmail for actual business emails.