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If you find this topic interesting, there’s a book by Kerry Segrave called ‘Vending Machines: An American Social History’ that’s surprisingly readable for a book about the history of vending machines.

The new online format allowed for hundred of public comments which were overwhelmingly negative. The action starts 1 hour and 10 minutes into the meeting.

The creditors need to "pound sand" because they accepted the risk in exchange for an interest payment.

That sounds really rough. If you ever want a group that won't badger you like that, look for "S.O.S" meetings: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secular_Organizations_for_Sobr...

Yes! It’s a propeller against a blue sky.

I am in the middle of planning my first 1:1 with my first direct report and this is incredibly helpful. My bosses never did this. Thank you!

Ideally, it’s to create and maintain a human connection.

"Conversational Prostitution"?

Are you saying if you were more attractive/deserving/whatever, people with therapeutic skills would go around sharing their insight with you for free?

N's can't ever (ever ever...) be wrong. The problem has to be something external, such as their environment. ;)

Considering the core symptom involves thinking your own problems are either nonexistent or caused by someone else, it makes sense why the shelves aren't overflowing with self help book for narcissists.

Things that did not help: -Books about people who were affected by narcissistic people. -All reddit groups about narcissism. -Writings of Vaknin and other famous narcissists.

Things that did help: -Reinventing Your Life by Young (general audience). -Schema Therapy by Young (professional audience). -Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations by Greenberg (professional audience). -Learning how to be aware when I'm splitting others or myself into black and white. (Much harder than it sounds. It's like trying to stop time.) -Regular appointments with a therapist. (Don't go expecting an 'atta boy'--expect to be pushed outside your comfort zone of false invulnerability and expect to resent your therapist with every cell in your body while this is happening. If you find them just giving you 'atta boys' you should get a different therapist). -Daily exercise. -Cutting ties with family of origin.

I bet lots of folks with Narcissistic parents are happy to inform you otherwise.

It doesn’t match the quality of the rest of the article and would really benefit from some fleshing out.

In the the same way the Mona Lisa can just be replicated with some canvas and paint, sure.

It sounds like time to get back into mental health treatment so you can deal with the trauma because workaholism is no longer working as a distraction.

The end of a close relationship, sexual assault, and the passing of your mother are each things that can seriously challenge your self-concept in difficult ways. They also will take a toll on your ability to trust others. Together it sounds like too much too fast to be processed outside of survival mode.

If you can't get into individual therapy, maybe you can find a support group? Even something phone or chat based is better than nothing.

Please know that you are not alone and there are a lot of us here who have struggled and continue to struggle. And go for walks with no phone or music!

Some management-type probably told the end users it will make their life easier and they are going to want you to include new features from day one. Do not do this. It will kill you.

Like most everyone else said, it’s very important that you adapt the business processes to the software. That’s your first goal. Your second is to go-live with something that is embarrassingly bare-bones.

Once you’re live you should start to hold meetings about what to enhance but don’t make any big changes yet. Give your users some minor cosmetic changes or very low hanging fruit while the system proves itself.

Once you’ve been live a quarter or two—ideally the end of a fiscal year—then you can go to town making substantive changes.

Eh, the "family bond" of the Amish also involves ruthlessly shunning their children and the children of their neighbors for doing things that most people would consider completely normal, so grain of salt re: tight bonds.

https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/americanexperience/films/amish-shun...

Are we talking about the same Rat Park? The rats in the utopian cities gave up using drugs.

To expand on the circuit breaker item above: Because most of the outlets in your home are split between two phases of AC, it meant that the X10 transmitter would only be able to talk to half your power outlets (and you didn't know which half ahead of time), unless a phase coupler was wired into your breaker box that would repeat the signal on the outlets connected to the other phase.