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garlic-fictionon I've improved myself hard for 10 years and feel lonely now – what should I do?

I am fully aware that I still have lots of room for improvement. I realise that every December when I reflect on myself and see how much I have improved throughout the year.

To avoid annoying you too much, I will now use a spell checker, since English is not my mother tongue. But enough about me.

It looks like you are going through a rough time right now. Do you want to talk about it?

garlic-fictionon I've improved myself hard for 10 years and feel lonely now – what should I do?

I would describe myself rather as efficient than intelligent. Because i also make lots of mistakes and struggle sometimes with easy things.

The question is, aren't there already enough blogs and services out there that help you to improve yourself?

All i can add is that it works and it is true that when you constantly work on yourself, you have a much easier life. 95% of the people i talk to only change themselves when there is no other way around it. Unless someone can bring up the intrinsic motivation to change him-/herself, it is hard to convince them. Probably an important reason is also, most people do not want to see the truth. This would mean they constantly observe their mistakes and realize that they are not as good as they thought.

garlic-fictionon I've improved myself hard for 10 years and feel lonely now – what should I do?

I just see everything as a challenge to get better. How can i fill the dish washer differently to get a better result? How can i schedule my day to get everything done? How can i refill my energy as fast as possible? How can i best memorize things that i use daily (for example my credit card number)?

In short, your brain is a muscle. If you train it every day, it gets better and better. Like doing push ups every day. First it is hard, but it gets easier and you can do more and more.

After a while you are able to absorb and process much more details. For example when you talk to another person you not only hear the words, you also start to notice the facial expressions and how the voice changes. Also your brain automatically processes more and more if you do not distract it.

The way i see it is, we are a bag of experiences. The more experiences we make, the more we can link and adapt. Therefore, reading lots of books certainly helps much. Because you get lots of new ideas that you can try out and experiment with.

The key is to question everything. I not only read it but also experiment with the new knowledge and see for myself what works best.