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The tagging system is something I'm really missing from my internet searches, whether I want to organize short term or long term.

Usually the most tabs I have open is because I was window shopping, particularly on Etsy. Etsy doesn't have a quick look option and it's faster to me to middle mouse click links to open them then go through them all once I'm done looking for a particular thing. Except it often ends up being a rabbit hole and I never get around to looking at the tabs.

You can favorite an item from the list view of items, but it adds it to the favorite list without prompting to sort into another list, which is worse than the YT or FB implementations of collection sorting. It's also easier to miss the prompt on the item view page since it only pops up for a few seconds. It ends up being easier to just open all the tabs and never favorite items I might want or not instead of going through favorites.

I tend to open various tabs to read things on Reddit, Wikipedia, research papers, etc in general and not come around to them either.

On top of that sometimes I leave things open because I want to share it later and haven't found a tool that makes it easy to sort collections like this. Pinterest is okay for things that have images, but the usability is not quite there either.

My team hired a Chinese engineer a little over a year ago. It took almost 4 months for them to join after my lead first mentioned giving her an offer.

You're confusing delayed sleep phase disorder with non 24hr sleep wake disorder.

This comment will stick with me. This is how I have been thinking of it. Google et al are not looking for a person like me.

I was asked to code 2048 in an interview at a major video game company. I don't necessarily think it's the most difficult thing ever, but I also don't think it's that easy if you've never even thought about it before. I knew I wasn't going to be able to completely solve it in 45 minutes and remarked solving it was more difficult than I thought it would be.

The interviewer replied, "yeah, I tried it at home and thought it was pretty hard too."

Seems like a pretty dumb question to ask in an interview unless you expect the interviewee to flounder.

I'm convinced I'm probably smart enough for at least a handful of roles there, but I'm not convinced Google (and others) care about people who interview poorly due to mental health issues. My thoughts, feelings, etc were shamed growing up so now "sharing my thoughts" to someone who is very clearly sitting there judging them sends me into a dissociative state and shows I can't "work under pressure". It's not near as big of a problem once I'm more comfortable with my coworkers. I wish I could magically overcome C-PTSD so it's not an issue, but it's the hand I was dealt.

It makes me feel very sad for anyone who struggles with their mental health, even if they are making progress. It makes me feel sad about what I have or will miss out on in my own life.

Not quite as odd, but my high school started at 8:10

Doesn't make any sense for a manager to suggest a specific drug, especially one that is a controlled substance in most countries or outright illegal.

I only moved once, after my parents got divorced. I changed schools in 4th grade and didn't end up having any "best" (they weren't actually good to me) friends again until 8th grade. I remember almost nothing about middle school, especially 7th grade. This week in therapy I was asked if my parents ever played with me or took an interest in anything I was doing...I realized they didn't. I'm so used to be being alone that I never considered this and I think it sucks more than the lack of friends. My parents were so emotionally unavailable they didn't notice any problems, not even when I became severely depressed in high school. It took more than 8 years for me to finally have a breakdown, 8 years for my mom to finally realize I needed help.

I've been diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder. It's uncomfortable knowing I fit in so well I'm basically invisible and when I'm not, it's more often that I'm being judged for having flat affect which I think is only exacerbated by being female. I don't know what emotions I'm not showing, I don't know any other way.

I never hid my previous employers but I really don't want companies reaching out to my previous job. My manager was toxic as hell and actually told me to give up when I tiptoed into telling him about some mental health issues that I was working through. He also told me everyone on my team disliked me. Eventually I did "give up" and stopped trying to impress anyone. I was also the only woman and felt extremely excluded by default. I ended up only being there for 6 months.

There isn't really a productive or healthy way to share this with a recruiter.

My "cycle" was like opening drawers and then closing them. The drawers were full of my own stories. Closing the drawers felt like me being unwilling to venture into the territory of the stories again.

This was how it was for me. I got burnt out coding a lot and studying for interviews (as I'm mostly self taught). I started going to therapy, but got fired after working under an awful manager that I didn't feel comfortable opening up to. Interviewing while unemployed pushed me further into burn out.

Coding originally pulled me out of a funk, it gave me something to work at. But now, I feel like I lost so much passion. I can't imagine coding in my free time even if I wasn't a developer anymore.

ADHD (especially untreated) and substance abuse/addiction is pretty common

My experience with US ADHD medical providers is that they require an appointment every 3 months where you get another 3 scripts (with 2 being dated for the future months). One let me go a whole year without having an appointment but I also didn't ask for a script every month. Generics stimulants have been cheap with and without insurance (or with GoodRX).

After I moved and got a new GP and asked for a stimulant prescription, they wanted me to come in every single month and do a urine drug screen even if I provided info from my former providers. I switched to an ADHD specialist right after that. It's much more expensive but they treat me with respect.

Stimulants are Schedule 2 in the US

You don't know if they have an internal struggle though. Just because they look functional to you doesn't mean it's easy for them.

I can say the opposite. I have the MTHFR mutation and ADHD. Taking vitamins did not alleviate my ADHD symptoms.

> When I have found things that I do genuinely enjoy, I can focus for hours and hours on end.

One of the hallmarks of ADHD is not being able to get started and stay focused on things you do enjoy, not just things anyone would find unenjoyable.

I haven't played CS OW but based off the description I just read on the replays, it seems like they are probably storing the interactions as text data and then using it to show the visuals later. That can be fudged.

I have worked on some server-side anti-cheat detection for a game recently. Competence is not a problem, it's actually very difficult to even do detection some would think is "easy".

I don't have a spouse. Just wanted to say I have a hard time meeting men AND making friends in Seattle, even as a female software engineer working in video games. I've used Tinder in the past and have been able to meet lots of people, but it doesn't seem to be as effective now. Not sure if the users of the app have changed or it's just Seattle culture. It's rough.

I feel your pain. My manager treat problems I mention as just my problems and not as a team/culture problem that I am particularly vocal about. My current manager views me so negatively right now that they have criticized me every 1:1 for the past month. I wish I didn't have to talk to them anymore at this point.

> Autism and Asperger's occur more frequently among boys than girls.

More males are diagnosed, doesn't necessarily mean it occurs more.

> I don't understand why people deliberately hire people of certain group.

Because humans are biased.

I agree with the sentiment that maybe therapy would be helpful for the OC, but speaking as a woman, I have a similar problem. Growing up my dad used my thoughts and emotions as weapons against me so "showing my thought process" to strangers that are men in a high stakes environment like an interview is incredibly crippling. I tend to disassociate once I'm uncomfortable and I'm not able to recover in the span of an interview session. I do attend therapy myself, but it's a very slow process to heal from years of emotional abuse.

I recognize my own experience is more on the extreme end, but SWE and related interviews could be more mindful of different life experiences in general.

Go to a library and use a computer to look at something like: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists or Google search "therapists in <City>" or "<disorder> treatment in <City>"

Going to weekly therapy is the only way I really track anything. I've been struggling a lot since my ex and I broke up last year. Earlier this year, I started thinking about how my dad treated me growing up and how it was (is) a type of emotional abuse. He's probably narcissistic. I'm sure it's a big factor in why I dated someone like my ex and why I've put up with so much shit in my relationships, friends, work.

And now at work, I'm being treated poorly by a particular person and he's generally offensive to everyone. He's kind of like my dad in a lot of ways and it's "triggering" me. Managers and HR don't seem to care much. I'm also concerned about retaliation because this guy came here with a handful of other people, a couple of which are extremely high level that can hold me back and give problem guy preferential treatment.

I'm one of few female engineers here and I feel like people with power are looking at me as whiny, it doesn't feel good. I already have too many short stints on my resume so I feel like I can't leave and I suck at tech interviews too...partly because "showing my thought process" is terrifying when I've grown up with all my thoughts and feelings being used as a weapon against me.

I have almost no friends in the city I moved to, I miss my mom and my brother a lot. I could try harder to make some new friends here but work is exhausting and I just don't feel good and I'd rather stay home and cuddle my dog. She is pretty much the only thing that gives me energy. :/

It sounds like therapy would be helpful for you. It's highly unlikely they will think your "rights need to be taken away" unless they think someone is going to get physically hurt.

If you can afford it, many therapists accept cash only and in that case, they don't have to diagnose you with anything since they aren't reporting to insurance. You also don't need to go to any therapist that isn't right for you.

> best and most eligible women live in Ukraine and Russia

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