deadmancoding

No it's not but the complications caused by it can be. If you are willing to live a miserable life with a colostomy bag and tons of med's that make you feel like crap then no its not fatal. If you choose to live life on your own terms then it can kill you.

I dont know my mom and my dad said just do what makes me happy. Reinventing yourself is easier said that done. My entire identity is based on being a .com wiz kid.

I cant. Luckily I can work form home because its hard to leave home.

Thats not harsh at all. My Chron's is very severe and attacks my organs (kidney and heart) sometimes. I was committed when i was younger (go ahead and laugh) but it was just Asperger syndrome. I don't think counseling would help. I think I am just tired of fighting it. And I am going to take the advice given here.

I don't think any woman in the world would date a guy with a colostomy bag. So by taking one I am committing myself to a life of loneliness and pain (crones hurts like hell).

I guess the hard part is that I fee like I wasted my life. The plan was to do .com's and things until 30 then retire. I was well on that road and now this. Thanks for all the suggestions. I literally don't know anything but code. I have no friends only work colleagues. Even when I broke this news people wanted to make sure that all the projects were transferrable.

I cant take the bag. I already have confidence issues and girls kind of think I am a loser. I cant imagine what they would think then (yes i now that is shallow and unreasonable logic.)