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chubbyFIREthrwy··on Vitamin D and Omega-3 have a larger effect on depression than antidepressants
>When I hear people say "it killed my libido" I always think about the fact that hyper-sexuality can be a trauma response, and if your body is healing the hyper-sexuality is most likely also reduced.

That ... feels like an edge case, for a very narrow set of circumstances (history + one of several possible responses to that history).

Anti-depressants seem to have a clear effect on dopamine pathways that better explain what's going on here. I have been on several that have this effect very visibly (at least Cymbalta): whenever I'm close to climax (whether from sex or masturbation) there is a mental block against pushing through to that release.

Fortunately, there are many that avoid this effect now, notably Zoloft, Trintellix, and Wellbutrin.

Edit: Okay what the heck just happened? This comment went dead (flagkilled?), despite being good faith and productive, as best I can tell. I would really appreciate feedback on what I did wrong, from anyone who can still see it. I did it on a semi-throwaway account for (what should be) obvious reasons.

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Sam Altman says ChatGPT will soon sext with verified adults
Yes? I had ChatGPT generate erotic literature for me about fantasy scenarios, but it oddly refused to depict actual sex during them, because they involved a workplace, and it didn't like the "problematic power imbalances". I was like, really? That's where (and why) you draw the line?
chubbyFIREthrwy··on Brain Hyperconnectivity in Children with Autism and Its Links to Social Deficits (2013)
You're missing the same point as in the other reply. The issue is not whether you can conceivably derive some other reasonable interpretation of the question. The issue is whether a NT interviewer is deft enough at communication so as to make this just a minor hiccup. If they're so flabbergasted by that kind of reply, and just shut down that that point, then yeah, I'm sorry, they just suck at asking for what they want, or are trying to weasel out of owning the real question.

(Edit: Or, even better, why not, like migrate to a question that heads off the misinterpretation in the first place e.g. "Why do you feel this role is a good match for you?" I think you know why.)

Remember, everyday communication constantly has (far-more-obvious) misinterpretations that, in hindsight, with sufficient logical strength, one party could have avoided entirely. Those who are actually good at communication, at "talking about facts", can easily identify the mismatch and narrow down what they want. This remains true regardless of how obvious a thing one party missed.

So yes, I get it, you can derive a better interpretation. That's beside the (original) point about, why can't you ask for what you really want? Why would you say something like, "[uhhh, oh crap, I have no self-awareness...] Just, whatever you interpret the question to mean"?

And, as with the other commenter, it's kind of funny that you're discounting the possibility that an NT would ever be in a position where they can't/don't want to ask the question they really want to, and are in a position of power to expect the interviewee to volunteer it. ("Yes I'm desperate enough to really need the money and make up some story about how I really like your company/line of work to cover it.")

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Brain Hyperconnectivity in Children with Autism and Its Links to Social Deficits (2013)
That's not responding to the point in my comment, which was about whether NTs are actually deft in communication about facts, as claimed.

If what you describe were the only issue, it would, at most, be a minor hiccup while the interviewer clarifies what they actually want in the answer -- i.e. are they validating that you have reasonable expectations about what you can get out of the job? Or that you have relevant qualifications? Both?[1]

If they're utterly stymied or write off the applicant on the basis of that answer, then yeah, that would validate the point that they're bad at "talking about facts!" Ditto for the other two examples, like where they interviewer refuses a chance to clarify, and leaves it open to guessing the secret desideratum.

Also, FWIW, it's kind of generous of you to discount the possibility that they're looking for indicators that you're desperate for work that they can't ask for directly.

[1] Note that another reply gives a different "obvious" interpretation, the confrontational "Why should we care?"

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42990107

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Brain Hyperconnectivity in Children with Autism and Its Links to Social Deficits (2013)
Good points, I appreciate the perspective! But, as someone probably on the spectrum, I still feel like the point about "NT people can't talk about facts" holds up.

Like, if someone replies, "I need the money etc" why can't NTs better clarify what they mean? For example, "Okay but why this company/role/specialty" as opposed to <alternative>?" If someone lacks the self-awareness to narrow down what they're looking for in a case like that, and just writes off the interviewee as deficient somehow, I'm happy to label the interviewer as being bad at "talking about facts".

I've had a case where I got a similar kind of prompt, and I asked a clarifying question to better get at what he was looking for, and he replied, "Just, whatever you interpret that to mean."

Like, what? You're the one asking the question, and you don't know what you want out of it? You'll knowingly let the interviewee "interpret" it, in a possibly incorrect way?

There was a reddit thread I'll try to find where they were asked "What's your favorite drink" and they replied "water" to which the follow-up was "come on, you can do better than that". A lot of commenters said, "oh yeah obviously that was an attempt to get you to see if you can intelligently defend your preference" or whatever. Okay, but the interviewer can also clarify what they're looking for!

Is it really (always) a bona fide occupational qualification to be able to guess the wishes of someone who's making no effort to express them on their own end?

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Bitcoin Block 840000
I made my fortune by building a GPU miner in January 2011. Even by then, the best GPU for it was sold out so I bought 4 of the next best one.

I shut it down in July of that year because it was raising my electric bill by like $100/month. Possibly the biggest financial mistake of my life.

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Embezzlers Are Nice People (2017)
I ... can actually sympathize with that, even as I don't try to scam people (at least, I don't think I do). It can be infuriating to see others get what they want in a way that's "what??? Why does that work?" It can feel like the real rules are being deliberately concealed from you, and you are just fighting back by using the hacks that you think everyone else is.

I remember having this feeling hit me hard when I read the part of the Richard Feynman book when he calls a woman a selfish wh--- and that results in her adamantly wanting to sleep with him.[1]

If you can shuck the siren's call of the mob, you can sympathize with the incel and MGTOW crowd who felt they weren't taught the right model.

I've kind of taken it on as a life motto: "No cheat codes." If there's something that magically works, it deserves to be exposed so everyone can use it, and also learn why it works. That is, everyone deserves the same hack. Yes, even when it costs my information monopoly.

[1] Blog post summarizing it: https://geekfeminismdotorg.wordpress.com/2011/01/05/feynman-...

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Suspicious discontinuities (2020)
Oh wow, good to know about other people who went that route. I was also considering getting a friend to pay me "consulting fees" for their business, and then I'd silently gift back the money ... but, as above, ick.
chubbyFIREthrwy··on Suspicious discontinuities (2020)
Well, remember, any time you have cutoffs like that, you can introduce the kind of welfare traps and discontinuities that the article focuses on. But yes, Congress definitely wasn't even asking "wait, do we want the subsides for high NW, choose-your-income people?"
chubbyFIREthrwy··on Suspicious discontinuities (2020)
People like me are an extreme edge case, I doubt this was a big factor in any debate.
chubbyFIREthrwy··on Suspicious discontinuities (2020)
>One reason people were looking for ways to lose money was that, in the U.S., there's a hard income cutoff for a health insurance subsidy at $48,560 for individuals (higher for larger households; $100,400 for a family of four). ... That means if an individual buying ACA insurance was going to earn $55k, they'd be better off reducing their income by $6440 and getting under the $48,560 subsidy ceiling than they are earning $55k.

I had the opposite problem for the 2022 tax year: I turned out that, with investment losses and no earned income, my adjusted income was below the poverty line, which ... means your ACA healthcare subsidy is cut off entirely!

https://www.irs.gov/affordable-care-act/individuals-and-fami...

The "logic" there (from reading discussions of the cutoff) is that, "well, if you're below the poverty line, you should be on Medicaid and not on the ACA exchanges at all, silly!" Okay, but if you have wildly varying income, and a high income from previous years, you don't know that you'll be "in poverty" this year, and won't qualify because of the past year.

I was tempted to update my taxes to claim phantom income from my imaginary cash-based business, which would then get me the subsidy, but that feels ick.

(Which, I know, being retired on crypto, I also feel ick about taking the subsidies to begin with, but that's a different issue.)

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Mortgage rates soar to their highest level in 21 years
This. Even if you could buy the house outright for cash, it still would have made sense to get one of those mortgages, base on that (reasonable even at the time) expectation that risk free rates would swamp that value soon enough, and, no surprise, here we are!

I was pondering that tradeoff myself two years ago, having retired early from crypto. The only issue is, to get the 2.5% you had to show Fannie Mae-acceptable regular income. Which is still possible: the FIRE people have a system for putting your money in a trust that pays it right back to you[1], then waiting two months to establish a history, and then you dissolve the trust once the mortgage is finalized and you've closed and moved in.

I would have done that myself except that it would involve putting a big delay on my search. Early comment about it: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31000286

[1] https://old.reddit.com/r/fatFIRE/comments/ojs18l/obtaining_a...

chubbyFIREthrwy··on More Subprime Borrowers Are Missing Loan Payments
Same, kinda. Wasn't denied, but would have to pay a huge risk premium over conventional, regardless of how much I put up as a down payment, like the home's collateral value didn't matter. Earlier post:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31000286

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Buying Real Estate with Crypto: New Mortgages Are Backed by Coins
I don't think you're disagreeing with the core point. By guaranteeing (some) mortgages, and setting standards for what mortgages it guarantees, Fannie et al have the effect of being a buyer for all those mortgages, even if it's private investors actually buying them. And since they are such preferential terms, such agencies effectively create an artificial class of lower-rate mortgages whose interest rates you can't get even if you reduce the risk by other means.

Earlier comment with context: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31000286

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Buying Real Estate with Crypto: New Mortgages Are Backed by Coins
Same situation myself[0] except credit score 775, and I could get a mortgage, but, no matter what % the down payment, the interest rate wouldn't be below 5%, at a time when conventionals that were Fannie-flippable were getting under 3. (This situation exists because Fannie buys without consideration for long-term interest rates or the impact of a higher down payment after some threshold.)

[0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31220794

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Today I asked a bank for a conventional mortgage and they said no
That wouldn't work in my scenario since I had already quit and the gap in W2 makes you suddenly high-risk. But yes, the fatFIRE people recommend getting the mortgage before you retire, which is what I should have done.

I agree with claytongulick's point too, I'd feel bad about applying anywhere with this intent.

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Today I asked a bank for a conventional mortgage and they said no
>And lending to someone with 10 years consistent employment history is much easier than lending to someone with a complex self-employment situation;

But that doesn't explain my situation, where the 30 years of mortgage payments are already there, with no need to validate income history.[1] And before you argue, "but you could go to Vegas and bet it all on black", a) that wouldn't explain why Fannie suddenly becomes okay with it if you set up that artificial trust, and b) the conventional mortgagee has at least the same risks to being able to keep up that income.

>Like, maybe the person in the tweet _does_ have the same risk as, say, the average person earning the same average income, but there's no way for the bank, or the tweet reader, to know that without substantial work.

I addressed that -- even if he increased the down payment to get risk parity, he would still pay a huge interest rate premium over conventional.

>Even in countries which doesn't have a Fannie Mae equivalent, self-employed mortgage lending is generally treated specially.

Other countries don't have a Fannie equivalent, in the sense of "lender that makes artificially-low-interest, 30-year-fixed mortgage loans". In those countries, I (or the tweet author) would establish that my loan has risk parity with the lowest-risk mortgages and would get the lowest rates. But in the US, even if this guy worked with a bank, who validated that he was such a low risk, they wouldn't be able to sell it to Fannie, and he'd have that huge (or variable) risk premium.

>They should be going to a specialised lender.

On that point, agreed, but it wouldn't change the core insight about Fannie being a "stupid" lender that can get people artificially good terms for stupid reasons.

[1] And, in case it matters, Fannie only looks at about 2 years of history, from whence they conclude that you'll definitely earn that much more for 30 years.

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Today I asked a bank for a conventional mortgage and they said no
>Not really surprising,

Depends on what your model is. If your model is, "banks want easy money, and will lend to low-credit risk people" then it is surprising, because the same risk should get the same rate. Finding out that the market is dominated by an entity with artificial constraints on its lending standards, and which doesn't care about long-term interest rate risk, is then a surprise.

>Others can help you,

Not really. The other alternatives get a loan, but not at the Fannie-subsidized sub-3% rate.

chubbyFIREthrwy··on Today I asked a bank for a conventional mortgage and they said no
I considered those, but they have variable rates (which are likely to be much higher than 2.x% over the 30 year term) and risk being margin-called during a crash.
chubbyFIREthrwy··on Today I asked a bank for a conventional mortgage and they said no
This tweet (from the reply thread) has the answer[1]:

>[Mortgages are easy to get in the US] Only if you're employed. Most mortgage lenders here are middlemen who sell your mortgage to Fannie and Freddie, and they have pretty strict guidelines on what they'll buy.

That is, most lenders don't actually use their own judgment about what counts as high risk or what is an appropriate interest rate to charge, but are simply planning to resell to Fannie/Freddie, and thus copy-paste their standards.

This ... was a shock to me. I had always assumed "banks are happy to lend to anyone who doesn't need the money". Then I retired on crypto gains and tried to get a mortgage (mid-late 2020), where I saw the very same disconnect -- even with liquid assets more than twice enough to buy the place outright, it didn't matter. Nor did arbitrarily increasing the down payment. Anything above 50% down didn't affect the rate, and even then I'd pay above 5% interest, when conventionals were getting under 3%.

To show you how absurd it is, the FatFIRE[3] people advocate getting around this by setting up a trust that pays your own assets right back to you.[2] Apparently, if the trust would live for 3 years, and you've already taken two months of this "income", Fannie considers that just as good as a super-reliable W2 income, and will treat it as conventional. Then, you dissolve it after buying and invest the money like you would have before.

I ended up just paying cash for the place, which has its own advantages: you can beat out tenuously-financed offers with a lower bid, and you avoid some of the closing costs and mortgage expenses. It still would have been nice to lock in 30 years of 2.8% interest to apparently-clueless banks.

Final note: This guy should be able to get a loan, since, even with the income fluctuations, it's consistently high, but yeah, it wouldn't be conventional with the absurdly low 30-year-fixed rates.

[1] https://twitter.com/AzazelAyers/status/1513784320225206272

[2] https://www.reddit.com/r/fatFIRE/comments/ojs18l/obtaining_a...

[3] FIRE = financially independent and retired early

(Throwaway because of personal details.)