Excellent post!
Controlled impedance took me a long time to wrap my head around when starting PCB design, the moment when it finally clicked was watching this excellent AlphaPhoenix video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2AXv49dDQJw& asking and practically demonstrating the simple question:
When you flip on a switch, to turn on anything, send data, morse something etc, how does the circuit know how much current the load at the other end needs?
Spoiler: Given that information can't travel faster than light, the simple answer is: it doesn't. So it just guesses and adjusts, which you don't want as it gives you exactly the ringing etc Heaviside identified. The video is a nice complement, as it perfectly visualizes the issues at play.
It's a pretty wild bit of understanding to have, even in simple situations like flipping on a light switch.