Thanks! Hmm, I think we're talking about slightly different things but it's been too long since I studied it to put it in the right words :)
I completely agree that spacetime can be "flatish" for a large block hole, but the event horizon does still represent a boundary right?
Consider the edge case of crossing the event horizon itself at some speed <<c (because you've got magic thrusters fighting the pull). At some point your feet will be through the event horizon and your head won't be. Do you agree that at that point you won't be able to see your feet?
I agree that your head will pass through the future light cone of your feet, and so could do somethign to affect your head (by emitting something falling slower than your head), but I'm not sure any light rays could follow that path.