Strangely enough, almost this exact same thing happened to me.
Apparently I was accountable for my ex-wife's tax bill (for a year in which we were not married) well after our divorce...in a state I never worked in.
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Apparently I was accountable for my ex-wife's tax bill (for a year in which we were not married) well after our divorce...in a state I never worked in.
It's definitely not "cool" among the startup culture, which seems to drive a lot of the language popularity.
I've done testing versus PHP for basically every sort of function related to web development (for my workflow) and can't think of an instance where one was better over the other in terms of speed...however CFML always won out in terms ease-of-coding (example: CURL -vs- cfhttp, db queries, REST API development, XML Parsing, etc.)
I can't say I've ever used Flash for anything on the web ever. I think it's nice that CF makes it easy, real easy, but I have never needed to use flash for anything.
My only "critique" would be to make the hex codes copy/paste ready in the results. I like the links to dribble, but I'd really like to just be able to quickly copy/paste the hex codes.
But I think you are quite right about finding motivation with visible progress.
I better get crackin!
Also, just FYI, I had to resize my screen to make the submit clickable.
I appreciate your positive candor - and, of course, hope all works out well for you.
With that said - My opinion is that it's REALLY important to give this balance conversation a lot of thought (I struggle with it myself bigtime...always wanting to do more, earn more, grow more, etc. "for my family and our future"...but that's my story, not necessarily yours).
Not in the "how do I pull it off effectively" kinda way (re: your article) - but in a "is this even what matters?" kinda way.
Also, something I didn't really give the author credit for - is the potential that the time spent with the kids and wife is REAL quality time. Being totally "present" with your family for 2-3 hours can be 100% more than being half-assed for 24 hours a day. (I think that's sort of what you meant when referring to your dad?)
I feel like so many in the "startup" culture are completely trapped in an imaginary bubble that literally means jack shit to anyone outside it.
You aren't changing the world out there...you're building business.
You are a father and a husband making a conscious adult decision to put work over your family...writing this little "how-to" article does not somehow make you immune to that reality. Venting your elitist self-serving views to the general public does not make you any less irresponsible, much less some sort of "leader".
"From 5:30pm-8:30pm, I’m not a startup CEO. I’m a dad." <- That statement right there pretty much illustrates my point.
No amount of money will ever replace what you're missing out on at home - I guess you'll have to figure that out on your own though. Hopefully your wife and children will give you back the same 1/8th of their time and focus that you give them.
Maybe do a little research about the project first...you come off as pretty ignorant with a statement like that.