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-walk into a licensed firearm dealer
-show government ID (e.g. drivers license)
-fill out ATF form 4473 (approx. two pages)
-wait for background check (called NICS, Near Instance Criminal Background Check System)
-pay for firearm
Did I miss any steps?
[0] https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2022/5/11/shireen-abu-akleh-i...
[1] https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2023/10/26/arab-world-speaks-...
[2] https://www.reuters.com/world/middle-east/israel-killed-11-p...
> PS Please excuse my not mailing this — but I don’t know your new address.
Not out of character for how I always imagined his personality.
- The first step to get a CR-1 visa is to file the I-130 petition, which as per [1] is taking about 12 months on average. Your luck may vary.
There is no magic pathway unfortunately but on the positive side, your spouse will be a permanent resident as soon as they enter the country.
[0] https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/legal/visa-law0/v...
Second point, do you respect the person giving your work criticism, and do you accept that it is useful for the product? If yes, then great, why feel bad if the goal was to improve the product, and their criticism will only make your work better. If no, then this can be a difficult situation, and I personally have been here before. I try to see things from their perspective, ask questions, etc., but there are definitely times when you will fundamentally disagree with the utility of the criticism, and this can indeed be a hard spot.
This all said, the manner of delivery makes a big difference. "Do better" is not useful feedback because it is not actionable. If you are getting this kind of feedback, consider finding a new job / manager. Feedback that is well thought out and actionable (e.g. "this can be refactored like so", or "this function needs another test case") is more than likely coming from a perspective that has seen many things go wrong, has an intuition about what can go wrong, and can be a learning experience for you. Sometimes, the problem cannot be articulated so clearly, in which case your manager should be careful to say so and they will have to put in some thought themselves into the problem and how to find a solution. If they are not then they are only doing half of their job.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clarence_Thomas https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Textualism