>grew in Silicon Valley and work here now as a dev

>The people I work with seem totally normal.

These two statements don't seem related to you?

I grew up in Orlando, Florida and for the first 25 years of my life, I thought people just went to Disney World when they felt like it. I thought everyone was tan and wore sunglasses and shorts all the time. I thought everyone knew how to surf, or had been to the ocean recently. I thought most people just had guns and didn't worry about them.

All of these things were normal to me, because I hadn't experienced other people's normal. So when you say "I grew up here, all of the people I know are normal," you're basically saying "I live in a filter bubble and might be accidentally proving your point."