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Romantically, this: http://jakeseliger.com/2014/11/11/getting-good-with-women-an... .

Otherwise, I'd say that you have one life, and that everything important thing anyone has ever done has been accomplished one deliberate decision, and one day, at a time. Today you have a day. What will you do to further your long term goals? What will you do to eliminate or remove distractions? Those are the most important questions you can ask, every day.

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>Romantically, this

Thanks for an inspring and helpful read! This actually helps me (a 17 year old) out a lot.

Regarding romance: If you want a wife, make many male friends. Consistently be honourable, selfless, and good. Volunteer for your friends. Go out of your way. The networking effect is subtle, but your name will "spread through the marketplace".

Don't hunt for your spouse as a lone-wolf ...there's nothing that way but isolation.

I agree about marriage, but if you want the experience of dating around, for shorter, medium term relationships, you really have little choice but to hunt as a 'lone wolf.' (You don't want to end up on dates with girls who have 'husband' on the back of their minds, which is often what the settled down social circle delivers... and anyways it can be more rewarding to 'win' someone on your own instead of having them 'delivered' to you.). So seems a little dramatic to say there's only isolation since less committed romantic involvements can be fulfilling too, and some would even argue (thinking "Sex at Dawn" author/ TED talk) that it's what your biology craves.

Thanks a lot. To be honest, I've already went through the "change" described in the article, but the article helped me see the better picture. I now have a reasonable social life and a happy relationship with my girlfriend. Thanks a bunch for your comment and advice, have a nice day!

Google for MGTOW as well. Stay safe!

Thanks! Interesting concept.

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