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Oh yes, selfish, that's me to a 'T' ;)

Of course it would never enter into my head to discuss these plans ahead of times with those involved and people are being dragged screaming and kicking to the furthest corners of the earth. And I pick the spot, every time.

Really, you couldn't be more wrong, if you want we can take this up via email (I've tried to keep my family members and private life out of my blog / public life as much as possible but I can see that in this case that isn't really doable without potentially giving the wrong impression).

The spot was picked by my s.o. in two cases and by me in the others, but we all agreed on roughly where we'd move ahead of time, in so far as agreement from small children counts they had a voice too, but if there would have been strong disagreement we'd definitely not have done any of this. For sure we enjoyed it and looking back there are definitely no regrets.

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Again, I don't know the full story, just based on what and how I read the article. If your family enjoys it, then by all means it sounds great :]. Heck, maybe it's even better for them than sticking around.

It's just like I had mentioned, it seems more people these days think that they are privileged and they're too self centered and not seeing what their true role should be. It's an issue that bothers me and it's simply how I read the article.

"if you want we can take this up via email" sounded so much like "do you want to take this outside" ;-)

That's exactly what I thought. "Say that to my face, not online and see what happens."

It's a good day for getting things interpreted in the worst possible way. It is more because I don't want to spill the details of my family in an open access forum, not because I want to start a fight. Blogging about generalities is one thing, this is getting pretty specific.

I meant it more in the sense that's it's the online version of "taking it outside" and it sounded funny :p I wasn't meaning to highlight unintended interpretations.

I think a guest post by your spouse would be a really interesting read.

My wife and I are about 10 years behind you[1] and I have changed industries a few times now based on a similar itch. It's good to see the perspective of someone who has already gone down the path we're treading.

Your "skillz" also seem to greatly exceed my own[2] even with a 10 year head start. So I'm not sure how transferable your advice/viewpoint are to my family's life journey. Even so, I think it a pretty valuable read.

Please consider having your spouse and/or children give their perspective on this nomadic lifestyle.

[1] Age-wise. I'm not sure about where our kids are in relation to yours. Our oldest is approaching 10. Are yours older?

[2] Or maybe you filter out your failures preferring to post positive-only articles?

Oldest is 19. Re. 2, I've blogged extensively about my failures so I don't think I only post positive articles.

>Of course it would never enter into my head to discuss these plans ahead of times with those involved and people are being dragged screaming and kicking to the furthest corners of the earth. And I pick the spot, every time.

From the article:

>So on average every 5 years I pick up those that are dear to me and some stuff and move and/or shift into a new line of business.

I'm sure you can forgive him for thinking that, considering the way it was phrased in the post.

Especially when you follow that line up by saying how hard it is on others in your life, but it's natural to you. And on top of that, the major reason for all of this is simply that you apparently get bored.

I'm sure things are not as one-sided as your blog post suggests, but the way it was written lends itself to misinterpretation.

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