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As a man at 25, start to think seriously about settling down with someone if you want a family. Men and women exist on different timelines. While you may think "Oh I'll wait until 30-35 for that stuff", you'll look around at that point and realize you've missed the boat. Of course plenty of people still get married and have kids at that age. But the vast majority of women are either married, engaged, or in long term relationships heading toward marriage by 30, and you won't realize that until it's too late.

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FWIW, this is the exact opposite of what my most important advice would be. Don't settle down in your 20s. Your life ends as soon as you have kids. You do get a new life, but it's radically different from the life you had, and not really yours.

Also, when you're 35, you will likely have a much better understanding of what really matters to you, and what kind of partner you really want for the long haul.

It's often said that "60 is the new 50" — and it is, if you do it right — the corollary is something like, "25 is the new 19". That's a gift! Take advantage.

>Also, when you're 35, you will likely have a much better understanding of what really matters to you, and what kind of partner you really want for the long haul.

Indeed you will, and she'll be married with kids at that point.

>It's often said that "60 is the new 50" — and it is, if you do it right — the corollary is something like, "25 is the new 19". That's a gift! Take advantage.

Again, it certainly can be for men if you're willing to date younger. But human biology has not changed. Women are well aware of the fact that their fertility drops off a cliff starting at 30. Plan accordingly.

Well aware of this and proactively working towards it.

The timelines part is really hits. Many people have told me to wait until 30-35 but the issue is the women that you're interested in are not going to wait for you...

A real dilemma ngl.

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