> the overwhelming majority of foreclosures in the wake of the '08 crisis were just regular homeowners
Yes and no. Yes they were regular homeowners, but they also massively overbid on homes they couldn't afford because it doesn't matter, we'll refinance under new valuation in a couple of years and will only profit from it! And by overbidding, they made the situation worse for more careful buyers, and helped to feed the frenzy. They are not the sole guilty party, there is a lot of guilt to go around, but part of the guilt lies on people who entered into bad deals because they were sure home prices never go down ever, and it doesn't matter how bad the deal is. I've been on a number of realtor presentations at the time that explicitly said things like that. And people bought into it massively. And yes, "everybody else" (well, not literally everybody, but a lot of people) did it.
That's exactly my point. It's still wrong what they did, and if they exercised more restraint and foresight, and less greed, maybe the size of the problem would be less, and less people would be hurt. I lived through it, and I had those doubts also - should I do what "everybody else" is doing? Should I participate in a clearly unsustainable bubble? Am I an idiot to not jump in at the chance of literally free money? Overwhelming majority faced the same questions, and a non-negligible part of them chose the irresponsible answer. And they got hurt. I feel for them. But I also do not forget it was their choice to make.