Fundamentally people don't want to be around each other, certainly not strangers, and the perceived (likely even real) consequences of it are an expected net loss.
Now, if we could just get cities to keep their light pollution within the city, it would be a nicer world.
Speak for yourself. Humans are fundamentally social creatures.
It's the opposite of that. Fundamentally, people do want to be around each other and need to be or they go insane.
There are exceptions, of course, but they don't represent the norm.
Thats why NYC is empty.