I read HN for absolutely wild comments like this one. To be clear, I think you’re being completely honest here. It’s just fascinating seeing someone with such an unusual thought process.
I would probably agree with the attendant if they told me "You were stupid for losing your ticket." I wouldn't think I was actually stupid, but being responsible for my actions is important to me.
Also, being adhd Ive accepted the bone-headed things I do/lose. It also wouldn't be a shock to find the parking ticket in the freezer a week later.
To them, it's irrelevant whether the helplessness is real or not. So they don't bother to take a moment to poke at the attendant's capacity for resolving the situation to their advantage.
I wouldn't say that its an unusual view, but it may indicate a deep desire for efficiency (don't argue, simply pay and be on ones way), financial privilege (an extra $20 charge is no big deal), or could be symptoms of deeper issues relating to self-worth (I am not worthy to ask for a break).
I'd try to speak to someone because who knows, but that's all.
And there's someone on the other side who is just like me but with a shitty job, and they get to tell me I have to pay full rate. I don't really care how polite they go about it.
Does that apply to everybody or just customer service people?
How about your coworker, boss, teacher, spouse, children, parents? Say you make a mistake and they correct you by saying "Not like that, you fuckhead". That's no different to you than "Oh, oops, I think it's this way."?
Even a customer service person, if they correct you the first way, you don't mind?
I don't care that much about phrasing, not as much as others do.
This is funny because now you're making a point of being empathetic to the other party, while claiming their (lack of) empathy doesn't affect you.
I thought that was the whole deal about empathy. If it wasn't, then it's just being kind to the people you like, but with extra steps.
I would care about just one thing: Will he reduce my ticket or not. The rest of his words are empty and meaningless.
And for the record ads don't work on me, mostly because I almost never hear an ad for something I might actually buy, the few times they are relevant the product is too expensive so instead I buy the same thing but without a brand name. (So I guess thanks for giving me the idea of a new product I might like?)
Germans in my opinion have perfected the art of no empathy for mistakes.
Though if I see no common ground then I won't agree with them just to placate them, it has to be genuine.