I don't know, I found VS Code to be nicer than Eclipse. I've never had a need for SSH through an IDE, so I can't speak to that. Usually I'd just SSH through putty and use Vi if I need to do stuff on the server.
I don't use IDEs at all and work on sshfs almost exclusively, but I totally understand where people are coming from and the difference between editing files and running code.
VScode sees file changes immediately.
(it also has, for most of my use cases, better performance that sshfs).