Every now and then I find myself with a day or two by myself, having no expectations, nobody to have to coordinate with, nowhere to be at a particular time. It’s incredibly resetting.
I know it’s valuable because when I can pull it off, I feel like I’m stealing something.
My colleagues that don't have kids, they waste their time. Not by doing nothing - that would be awesome - but by creating problems for themselves that end up taking their spare time. It is like they believe they will always have empty days to spare.
If I told you, “Having kids is a waste of your time” you’d be 100% sure that I’m wrong. And I might be. I might not be. All depends on perspective.
But there you sit confidently making a judgement about someone else’s time just like I did with you.
You know your perspective also works in reverse. When I was young I wanted time away from my parents. Now that they're gone, I would love to spend even 5 minutes with them.
balance is a never ending struggle.
and decade later you will miss 'occupied' days.