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> Well, the basic wisdom, as I have been told, is that anger is a reaction to fear ...

Oh, that's very different from what I learned, and have seen, which is that anger is a reaction to not having control over something (that you do actually want control of).

So, when something occurs that's different to how a person wishes it to be (for whatever reason) they (can) get angry.

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Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though. The main times I feel anger are when people waste my time, because I lost time that I could have used for better purposes. I could see that ultimately being due to a fear of having too little time to do what I want to do in life.

> Maybe fear is the reason they seek control of that something though ...

Maybe sometimes, but it would be pretty rare.

At least for myself, and other people I know well.

Why else would you want control over something though? If not to make sure you get what you want. Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want?

(A side note from an angry control freak thinking about this thread).

At that point I tend to agree it boils down to control which boils down to feat and it’s just very hard to admit.

> Which is driven by a fear of not getting what you want?

That really seems like trying to shoehorn a square into a circle, and doesn't make any sense to me personally.

If that's how you work though, then no worries. :)

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