No one likes to admit they’re frightened, but, in my experience, identifying the fear, and addressing that, is quite effective.
Oh, that's very different from what I learned, and have seen, which is that anger is a reaction to not having control over something (that you do actually want control of).
So, when something occurs that's different to how a person wishes it to be (for whatever reason) they (can) get angry.
Maybe sometimes, but it would be pretty rare.
At least for myself, and other people I know well.
(A side note from an angry control freak thinking about this thread).
At that point I tend to agree it boils down to control which boils down to feat and it’s just very hard to admit.
That really seems like trying to shoehorn a square into a circle, and doesn't make any sense to me personally.
If that's how you work though, then no worries. :)