It is true that men can fix their problems by becoming secure and confident, but feminists tend to say that men shouldn't have to be secure and confident. So then when women shun insecure self deprecating men, isn't that a problem?
Femcels are just as ridiculous as incels. If you continue to live your life thinking you are the victim and never improving yourself you will never be happy. The toxic part of this attitude is that you start to apply the same hate to those who may actually treat you like the wonderful person you are. Ignoring this makes you less wonderful to other people.
Remember this oldish meme?
https://qph.cf2.quoracdn.net/main-qimg-61d1aa6a286bf44b59f46...
Incels just think they understand animal behavior, evolution, good genes theory, sexual dimorphism, biology, etc etc.
What they don’t understand is that you have to min/max correctly and not min/min. Now they sit around whining at each other on the internet. They can’t get the hottest women - OK. Either can most of us. Boohoo