I've had a very similar experience, and have worked on a lot of React Native and Flutter projects over the years.

React Native (Expo specifically) or Flutter can be a good choice depending on your requirements and experience. I wouldn't let Dart put you off though, it's a decent language and easy to learn.

I've got some articles about this here: https://foresightmobile.com/blog

Would be happy to chat, just drop me a message.

Yeah I'd be interested to hear others experience regarding keeping the react-native dependency hell up to date. This has been nothing but constant refactors in our app, react-native and other third party libs.

Might a bit coloured by my small amount of experience with it.