I created a small community where everyone knows everyone's face/name. I am really restrictive with the number of people in the server not because I want exclusivity per se, but rather that I dont want to lose the deeper connections you develop with people in a small community. There's about 10 of us total right now.
It also helps that everyone is on the same page (serious about releasing their game) so we have a common goal to work towards together (and separately). It's great, I've been running the server for almost a year now. Everyone has said it's been really motivating.
So please, email me if anyone here wants that. Otherwise, the other discord links posted here are probably a better fit for you!