I get the feeling that males not engaged in something perceptibly “productive” are judged very harshly.
Put another way: that leaves 10 hours a day for eating, sleeping, and the actual things that make relationships work (quality time, sharing responsibilities, etc.). Unless your friend didn't sleep, he probably wasn't being a very attentive partner.
Makes a great guild leader though?
I have found that average number of hours played per day is negatively correlated with how laid-back the player is. Laidbackness is bimodal, in that lower skill and very high skill players tend to be laidback. A large amount of above average (but not excellent) players tend to play more hours per day, be more obsessive, less forgiving, and fairly judgemental of how other people play. I like to think of this as the Dunning-Kruger curve in action. We call these players "sweaties", because they are breaking a sweat and stressing over everything. Really great players don't stress, they just perform.
The newest Doom games are great, but there is no deep story, just enough plot and lore to give the game context. In a practical sense you're shootin, jumpin, and clickin -- 20 frenetic minutes of excitement. Put cursor over target until dopamine is deployed, repeat. Crazy adrenaline highs but also no larger engrossing activity except generating skulls for the skull throne.
-John Carmack
Yes, it's hard. But you don't fight depression with endless gaming sessions. Quite the opposite, really.
I feel incredibly stupid playing multiplayer games during business hours because, well, who am I playing against/with? Either children or lazy bums.
Of course people retire, take days off, etc. I simply stated how I feel. Plenty of voice chats have left me with the impression that kids and "lazy bums" really do make up the majority during business hours, at least in the games I play - RTS and FPS
Doomscrolling Insta is the death of self
But, it was irritating that people gave me a hard time about it. Some people seem to need shared pain, and if they’re in pain but they see someone chilling, they’ll react to it.
Personally, I am looking forward to some gardening. I've spent several decades playing games multiple hours almost every week. Clearly not everyone has been wasting their youth as I did and I am glad for people who finally get to do what they want.