I think you should step away from platforms like HN, live life (real life, offline) and find out what you enjoy. I don't think you'll find an answer through the thing you want to leave. Kinda like people trying to fix their smartphone addiction by installing an app on their smartphone. It may work for some, but it seems like an odd approach.

(Doing a bit of an assumption here that after 20 years of tech work you're not broke.)