HN is an American forum. Asking people not to use American slurs is not asking too much.
Here's the issue. This is the typical American "If you're not 100% for it, then you're 100% against it" attitude.
That's not how the world works.
Perhaps we should stop empowering words and start empowering people to ignore such words.
https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/white-gay-privilege-ex...
https://www.them.us/story/white-gay-men-are-hindering-our-pr...
https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2021/8/16/white-lotus-kn... [1]
I’m glad you feel comfortable in your social standing. Some of us are still fighting for our right to exist. Allowing unchecked bigoted language like that is the ultimate privileged position to take. The next time someone objects to LGBT slurs, consider checking your privilege and staying quiet. The original poster even admitted he used the word deliberately to get a rise out of people. It was done deliberately with malice.
[1] “Historically, when we look at how the LGBTQIA+ community interacts with itself, there’s a clear dichotomy to who is “superior.” White cis gay men have always been elevated to a higher status than other members of their community because they’re the most accepted and privileged in society. They move further away from their community because they don’t see themselves as a part of it, but more so a part of an elite society that offers them what they want.”