With some (minor) exceptions, what people are getting in their relationships is at least 50% result of their own choices, and not owning that only prolongs the effects.
Edit-add: also, I think “being with a person who never triggers a negative response in you” is just plain impossible. On some days I trigger a negative response with myself :-)
But based on my limited experience of two 10+ years relationships, I can say life is so much easier and fun when you have less things to disagree about.
But I also acknowledge that this is how I am wired - for some, fights are stimulating. Hence my initial reply with shibari. There exist rather interesting pathways to happiness.
I can’t think of a better goal than to be with somebody so compatible that you have minimal friction and minimal issues.